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emalou23
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Stressed while dating a chef
Relationship Stress / by emalou23
Last post
 May 18th
...See more I don't know where to start. I'm so low it's scary and even my antidepressants aren't lifting it this time. Been with the guy for 4 years and moved into our new home in January this year. Recently got a fence put up and it wasn't done right so been back and forth with the company. Then last night after he finished work he kicked off about it and didn't see why I was annoyed at them putting the fence in the wrong place. It then escalated to him yelling at me about everything and anything saying I do nothing about the house and I need to grow up. I do all the house work and only ask him to sort the bins and take the bin out for the bin men to collect once a week. I do everything else. He says he does all the cooking, he does it twice a week. I was scared of him last night and cried myself to sleep after a panic attack. He's not spoken to me this morning. I have a lot of trauma from past relationships and my childhood and feel like everything is my fault. Like I'm the worst person ever. I got up early this morning and deep tidied the kitchen and wiped the surfaces and I'm going to scrub it properly after work. I've also tidied the living room and other things. I feel like I have to do everything now to prove to him that I don't do nothing.
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Lockdown or is my relationship with
Relationship Stress / by emalou23
Last post
 March 25th, 2021
...See more I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we've been living together for over a year and before that I was staying at his at least half the week. We bought a house about 6 months ago. He has a daughter from a previous relationship. Step mum life is hard and I don't know if I'm cut out for it but that's not what this is about. I feel like he doesn't make any effort anymore like I'm expected to be OK with him just being there not going on dates or anything anymore. I get made to feel rubbish for asking for us time at a weekend and that the wee ones mum could have her and let us do something together. I feel like he's constantly putting me down, he says hes just joking but it's starting to get to me. My depression has got really bad over the last year and I feel like I'm a shadow of the person I once was. I don't know if I should go screw it and see about changing names on the house and go back to my mums or if I should stay here. Is it my depression and Lockdown getting to me and I'm too stuck in my own head. Or should I expect him to make an effort and actually make me feel loved.
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