Lockdown or is my relationship with

I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we've been living together for over a year and before that I was staying at his at least half the week. We bought a house about 6 months ago. He has a daughter from a previous relationship. Step mum life is hard and I don't know if I'm cut out for it but that's not what this is about. I feel like he doesn't make any effort anymore like I'm expected to be OK with him just being there not going on dates or anything anymore. I get made to feel rubbish for asking for us time at a weekend and that the wee ones mum could have her and let us do something together. I feel like he's constantly putting me down, he says hes just joking but it's starting to get to me. My depression has got really bad over the last year and I feel like I'm a shadow of the person I once was. I don't know if I should go screw it and see about changing names on the house and go back to my mums or if I should stay here. Is it my depression and Lockdown getting to me and I'm too stuck in my own head. Or should I expect him to make an effort and actually make me feel loved.