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emotionalJet5009
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Confused about boyfriend behaviour
Relationship Stress / by emotionalJet5009
Last post
 September 3rd, 2022
...See more Hi everyone, I hope you’re all having a good weekend. i had an interesting response to something I said to my boyfriend and wasn’t sure what to say or how to reply to him so I didn’t. I work with children and a parent asked for my help with a baby harness, getting clipped up at the back. I helped as the child was already in the harness. Didn’t think any more of it. My boyfriend got very grumpy when I mentioned I had helped with this and then said he would have left him to it and starting saying things like were was his wife. I was only just leaving work and wasn’t going to leave him to struggle. Why would he have behaved like this? It seemed so strange and might have been nothing but I didn’t go in to detail with him about it. Am so confused and not sure what to think.
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Think my boyfriend is lying to me
Relationship Stress / by emotionalJet5009
Last post
 August 22nd, 2022
...See more Sorry to be posting about something that might be small but I’m just after some reassurance as not sure am overreacting. I was borrowing my bf’s to get something off the internet and when closing the page there was profile page of one woman open on FB. He knew I saw it and went on to explain that it was something he clicked on, on marketplace by accident. Not sure how he got to her profile this way but found out after she is a FB friend of his so his explanation didn’t make much sense to me. So strange and it might be nothing but it seems like something is being hidden and not sure what to think. There has been so much shady behaviour from him recently and this is just one of many things that has left me questioning what he’s up to. Thanks for reading and any thoughts are always appreciated xx ❤️🤗
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Is this normal behaviour? What should I do?
Relationship Stress / by emotionalJet5009
Last post
 August 22nd, 2022
...See more Is my boyfriend gaslighting me? I spoke to my boyfriend about what is going on, how he always seems to ignore when I’m talking to him or ask him a question and he answers but then hasn’t listened because he asked me to repeat it. He said he didn’t realise he was doing it and said this happened in past relationships where they accused him of not listening and did say he wondered if that’s where they went wrong. He has completely ignored talking about my birthday and it wasn’t until I said I got myself an early birthday present that he said he was going to get something for my birthday but he was worried because he said he can’t get me much but he didn’t like I was talking about what a colleague is getting from her boyfriend for her birthday. It was never to bring him down , I am not materialistic and explained this was because my work mates birthday is a milestone. He talks about everything he wants for his birthday a few months away but won’t acknowledge mine. My bf did say he is worried I’m digging for things that aren’t a problem but I think it was getting too much. Not about the birthday at all but that I don’t feel he listens. He was holding his phone in an awkward position yesterday and he didn’t look comfy and I said you don’t have to sit like that. He only replied he’s not hiding anything. When I mentioned this he says he doesn’t remember saying this either but in recent weeks he’s said this twice. He has stopped my tags showing up on his Facebook feed and only said he wasn’t trying to hide me from anyone. This all on top of finding out he has a son he never told me about is a lot to take in and sorry this is a long post. I’m trying to work out this behaviour too and is this reason to worry? Thanks again for reading and for your help.
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Confused and not sure how to feel as boyfriend had a child with another woman and never told me
35 & Over Community / by emotionalJet5009
Last post
 July 16th, 2022
...See more Hi everyone, I hope you’re having a great weekend and sorry for the long post. A week ago I found out my boyfriend has a son with a woman he dated a couple of years ago before we met. No problem, I have children too who I love and which my bf knows about. But he never told me about his son and told me he never wanted children. No problem if he chooses to have children or not. I love children and am hurt he never told me as I saw in a text as he showed me something else on his phone. He said he never told me because she trapped him with pregnancy and was worried I would judge him, it hurt more he felt he couldn’t tell me. I understand it might have hurt him and said I realise that and he can talk to me about anything. I am struggling with my emotions as I have had abusive and controlling relationships in the past - that he knows about. I want to trust him but said I feel as soon as I let my walls down he broke my trust and because of past experiences might be cautious. we had a great relationship up until this point and spoke about how it has made me feel and I understand how he may feel. I want to relax but am struggling to get my head round this right now, am I overreacting and should I just carry on and let time do it’s bit and heal. I now feel as this is one thing he didn’t tell me there might be other things. He said there isn’t and doesn’t want to lose me. Thanks for reading and any advice would be appreciated.
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Boyfriend has child from past relationship he never told me about. I’m so confused and not sure how I feel
Relationship Stress / by emotionalJet5009
Last post
 July 17th, 2022
...See more Hey everyone, how are you all doing? I’m sorry for a long post, I’m not sure what to do. I was helping my boyfriend set up his phone and needed to pick up a text off there to do that with his permission and just under that there was a text off a woman saying “are you going to avoid knowing your son? This was from a year ago and we have been dating a little over that. I’m not sure what to think. He never told me there was a chance he had children as he said he never wanted any. If he told me it wouldn’t have been a problem as I have children of my own and also work with children. I tried talking to him about it and he said he never spoke about his past relationships as was too painful. I’m so upset and he tells me he doesn’t want to lose me etc and loves me but this too close to a bone and triggers past feelings from my narc exes. Am I overreacting and what should I do? I explained to him I understand it might be painful and it hurt me he couldn’t tell me about this and I’ve been left wondering if there’s anything else he’s keeping from me. I’ve been told by a close friend I need to trust him but I’m struggling at the moment and noticed a little shift in my feelings towards him. Since then he has often been zoning out when I talk to him and appears distant which worries me there are other things he’s keeping from me. I don’t want to overthink and have said I’m here for him but what can I do? Thanks for reading and any advice is appreciated.
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