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forcefulSea7026
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PathStep 5 Compassion hearts109 Forum posts32 Forum upvotes24 Current upvotes24 Age GroupAdult Last activeNovember, 2025 Member sinceNovember 10, 2019
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Relationship Stress / by forcefulSea7026
Last post
 November 8th, 2025
...See more Almost a week ago I was in a car accident (distracted driver hit me head on) outside of some bumps and bruises and a broken finger I am ok. My boyfriend for the first few days was kind and supportive and helpful but within the last 2 days he has become mean. He makes comments about how he has to do everything (I can’t quite use my left hand so there’s lots I can’t do). I got upset and started crying because I had to pick up the rental car and it is different than the car I drove and it made me upset and overwhelmed. He got mad saying be an adult and stop crying over nothing. And made comments about how this whole event has been hard on him and that I have never given any thought to how he is handling it all. He was not in the car at the time, sure i understand he was worried about me. But I was the one in the accident having to deal with the aches and pains and now has to buy a new car. I don’t find him supportive anymore and just wonder am I wrong. Should I be over the accident after 6 days?
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Communication
Relationship Stress / by forcefulSea7026
Last post
 April 14th, 2025
...See more Lately I feel like everything I say causes an argument between my bf and myself. It doesn’t matter the topic. Our most recent one was over a pants. I had purchased 3 new pairs of pants, all the same just different colours. I asked him which he liked the best and he said he would need to see an entire outfit before he could make a decision. I kept asking just the pants which of the 3 colours is best. This is what started the argument. Once he started the get mad I tried to drop the conversation, which is usually me saying it’s stupid never mind or I’m sorry you’re right but he was not having it. He keeps saying you must either be insanely stupid or want out of this relationship if you want to argue over something stupid. All I wanted to know was which of the 3 colours looked best (someone may so oh blue is more your colour, or the white doesn’t suit you). I just feel like I am at a point where I should not speak. Every time we argue (and I use that loosely because our arguments are him yelling at me, and me just saying I’m sorry) . I always tell myself after I’m not going to talk but everytime once things good between us completely forget about this. I start to feel like am I just crazy and stupid should we not be able to have a simple conversation without it always turning into this. Shouldn’t I be able to talk any anything with the person you want to spend your life with.
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I think we’re done?
Relationship Stress / by forcefulSea7026
Last post
 February 7th, 2025
...See more Last night my bf and I (5 yrs together) got into a fight. Without going into details, I said something that I believed was right he told me I was wrong and then proved it to me. I came back with I was wrong I’m sorry but by then he was already provoked and heated and too far gone. He gets mad, furious, angry, etc, etc. when we fight. He shouts , says mean things to me. Yesterday morning I had surgery, it was outpatient to remove a skin issue but minor surgery nonetheless. He was kind during the day but after the fight. He kept going on saying “why do I even waste my time with you today. I should have let you find your own way to the hospital”’ when I asked him to stop yelling at me. He got even more mad, saying I don’t care that you’re in pain from your procedure you *** me off so I don’t care. I have no need to help you with anything. While struggling to get up stairs or sit down he doesn’t even bat an eyelash. I couldn’t even get into bed and he just didn’t even look in my direction just closed his eyes and went to bed. While I understand he was mad about our fight, how can he honestly not care about how I am doing. He’s supposed to love me. How can you watch someone you love be unable to do something because they are in pain and not even look in their direction? I don’t think I can stay with someone like this.
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Birthday
Relationship Stress / by forcefulSea7026
Last post
 November 24th, 2024
...See more My boyfriend and I decided to go out for my bday dinner and he told me to pick wherever I wanted to go. Everything was going well until we got our dinner, it was not what we expected and not very good. We are both the same that we do not like to complain or send something back unless necessary so we agreed we were not going to do that. Where we differ is that I let things go, I can’t control how the meal was going to taste so it just is what it is. My boyfriend on the other end continued to go on and on about how bad it was and how disappointed he was and how it wasn’t worth the money (he still had no interest to complain about it) the longer he went on the more I felt bad and got upset because I had picked it. 30 minutes later he was still going on about it and I am in near tears because I feel like it is my fault. He turns it around on me saying that if I had gone on with him about how bad it was then he would have been less mad but because I was letting it go I wasn’t on his side so now his anger is turned onto me. And now it’s all my fault, he said he should have never let me talk him into going out for dinner we should have just stayed home. But if we had a good meal none of this would have happened I am so upset, it’s my birthday and now we aren’t even speaking because according to him it is all my fault
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Miserable on Vacation
Relationship Stress / by forcefulSea7026
Last post
 October 9th, 2024
...See more My bf and I have been together about 4 years. We are currently on vacation together but it has really taken a turn. Since the beginning of the trip things have just been terrible. He was mad at me before we left because I was wearing a ring. Not an expensive one just cheap one because I enjoy wearing jewelry. He was mad because he believed I shouldn’t wear anything as it draws attention (that one I apologized for because I saw his side) But our biggest fight to date was today. I suffer from health anxiety and whenever i am out of country it gets worse. I was out too much in the heat and started to not feel well. I am a rational person and know that was causing me to feel unwell but the anxiety was putting me into overdrive of worry. Throughout our relationship I have managed to keep that side of my anxiety away from him but on vacation it is hard to hide. He started calling me mental and saying that 12 years have that mentality. I tried to explain to him that once I start spiraling it takes me some time to relax and be able to be rational but he wanted no part of it. He didn’t speak to me for the rest of the day and then proceeded to tell me to leave him alone for the rest of the trip as he wants nothing to do with me anymore. I am heartbroken and want nothing more than to go home but I can’t. Im forced to stick it out.
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Defending or Argument?
Relationship Stress / by forcefulSea7026
Last post
 September 25th, 2024
...See more My bf (of 4 years) made some comments regarding my current job that have really upset me. I work as scheduler (filling shifts, dealing with call ins, etc.) for a program that supports people with disabilities. I have worked there for almost a year. I never complain that my job is hard (I have previous factory work experience so understand hard work) but my job can be challenging and stressful at times. I am allowed to work from home 1 day a week and usually I can manage to work and get some household chores done at the same time. I usually tell my bf about my days at work and share good & bad things that happen. Today was an easy day where my phone didn’t ring so I managed to get a lot done around the house, my bf came home and I shared this with him. His response was: “I never want to hear you complain again about how hard your job is” I responded that I never complain its hard but that it can be stressful at times if you are dealing with multiple people calling in a short amount of time (which has happened many times) he starts going on and on about how doctors, nurses have it hard and that I have it easy considering what I managed to get done in a day. I told him that I never compare my job to doctors, teachers, etc. cause it’s not possible to compare. Out of the people who work in my office I would say my job is more challenging then there’s but again I don’t compare my job to others. I felt I had to defend myself and my job sharing how there are times it can be challenging but it is not all the time. He could not comprehend this and told me I was being argumentative because I was disagreeing with his initial statement. I feel from this point on I will never speak about my job ever again to him.
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Sick and Tired
Relationship Stress / by forcefulSea7026
Last post
 August 13th, 2024
...See more Are all men ridiculous when their spouse gets sick. Mine was home all day watching tv while I went to work sick as anything (no sick days at work) and I came home to a sink full of his dishes, and a full dishwasher that needed to be unloaded. I asked how he was and he said “I am borderline sick” I said oh what symptoms do you have, as I stated my cold with a really bad sore throat. He responded “well nothing yet but I am on the edge of being sick” I felt that was dramatic. I am not someone who whines or complains, I don’t ask anyone to do anything or make me anything. If I want soup for example I will go and do it myself. My boyfriend never asks if I want or need anything. At the end of the day I was heading to bed and was saying goodnight and I said how much I wanted to give him a kiss (trying to keep distance so he doesn’t get it) he goes your so annoying. I was confused at how I was being annoying. He told me I am such a *** when I am sick and it’s annoying, that if I am going to be sick then to do it away from him. I am hurt by his words. I do everything around the house , in sickness or health I don’t complain. I didn’t even know how to respond I just walked away.
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Overreaction?
Relationship Stress / by forcefulSea7026
Last post
 June 23rd, 2024
...See more My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and I have been on birth control for 5 years. Never have I ever missed a dose, I am always on top of. This past week I have been preoccupied with work and I missed a dose. I didn’t realize it until the following day when I saw the pill from the previous day still in the pack. Realizing the mistake I started to freak out, I told my boyfriend and got a reaction that was not helpful. He started yelling at me saying how could you forget, it’s not like you have anything else more important than this. He told me I cannot be trusted. I was already upset at myself from forgetting he wasn’t helping at all. He just continued telling me how ridiculous I am for forgetting (keep in mind he forgets to take his pills all the time). I completely understand the severity of this situation and how it could lead to an unplanned pregnancy, but him yelling at me calling me names, and that I am stupid does not help. Afterwards he started stonewalling me, ignoring me not even looking at me. I have apologized, but he won’t hear of it. We are supposed to be a team, I wanted him to say we can sort it out together and understand that I would never intentional forget one as I take it very seriously but as we all know life happens. Him ignoring me makes me feel hurt. I know and understand the consequences of it but it was an honest mistake, I have never ever missed a pill or even been late in taking one in all my years of taking it.
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