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goldenSkies1957
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Struggle with Trust
Relationship Stress / by goldenSkies1957
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 March 29th, 2024
...See more This may not seem like a huge deal and maybe it isn't but I am still seriously thrown by it and not too sure how to process it. I found out that my boyfriend vapes occasionally and he has hid it from me for over a year. A little back story..  I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now, we started as friends and the relationship just started to develop as we spent more time together. He is in AA, over 2 years now and he told me before we got serious that he was because he wanted everything on the table. From then on when it comes to talking about his past, I have let him come to me with his story and experience when he is ready and he has been sharing more and more with me over the time we have been together.  Farther into my backstory I was with a guy for over 8 years and he kept things from me often and anytime I found out or a friend slipped he shamed me for being nosey. I never felt like I could fully trust him. He was unfortunately very manipulative and had a lot of qualities that lean toward being a narcissist. So from my past I have a hard hard time trusting and opening up..  Back to present, this guy has made me feel so safe over our times together and he has always been so open and encouraging for me to find myself again.. He talks about honesty and openness from being in the program.. He has been a huge part of building my trust again and now, I know that this is a small thing, but I feel lied to because he hid this from me for so long.  Am I wrong? Anyone have some insight for me?
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Anxiety/overthinking ruining my relationship
Relationship Stress / by goldenSkies1957
Last post
 February 17th, 2024
...See more Hello community.. I’m super nervous about posting but I am also struggling with feeling like a bother to my friends and family… so here I am bugging you, strangers. long short of it all.. at the beginning of my relationship I was more relaxed, not so anxiety ridden, not worried about outside factors, not bogged down with everything and easy to upset and snap. My boyfriend has mentioned a couple times now that I was not like this at the beginning of our relationship. I am dealing with a messy separation, having to leave my favourite job as it did not work for my single parent life/schedule, getting into a new relationship probably too soon after leaving my ex.. I'm finally in a healthy relationship with someone that was a best friend before we started dating.. I’ve never felt safer, he understands anxiety and always steps away to try to understand when he doesn’t get what is going on to try to find a friend that can explain it in a different way for him. But I am now spiralling out in worry what if scenarios that are not possible and no reason for me to worry about.. help?!?
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