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goodPomegranate8307
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Cheater?
Relationship Stress / by goodPomegranate8307
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 December 24th, 2024
...See more I have had thoughts for a few years now that my husband had cheated. But I could not prove it. But last week I had someones husband reach out to me to tell me his wife was with my husband. And it has been going on for years. He just recently found out all of this from a few people. He told me she had been at my house and he was caught by her brother-in-law at her house and its still happening today. That brother-in-law reached out to me to verify to me that he in fact caught them and my husband ran off when he walked in. This husband also gave me 4 other names of people who apparently know. I confronted my husband last week and he first acted like he didnt know her...then said she was an old neighbor who he hadnt seen in years. He didnt even have her number. He supposedly called a friend to get her number and he called her behind my back that night. Then called her when I got home and she said they had not spoken in years. Clearly a colaborated story if he called her when I wasnt around that night. So then I started digging. I found he had been calling/texting her all the way back in June...conveniently while I was away with our children. So they both LIED. I want to confront him again after Christmas. I dont want to ruin the holiday for my kids. But what do I do if he continues to deny? I have a very good feeling she isnt the only woman he was with. In 2018 when my dad was sick in the hospital, he became very close to a girl...who he called his "bar wife". I was mad but he kept insisting she is a good person and means no harm. I was going thru a lot with my dad, I didnt have time to really dig into it...I wish I had. Well I found out they Snap chatted all the time after I caught texts between them. He told me he stopped being friends with her, yet i would see random pictures from other people and they were there. And now he is back to texting/calling. What do I do if he keeps denying cheating? I just want him to admit it so I dont keep living in a lie. He has been awfully nice lately, which makes me suspicious. Im in a good place mentally and financially to be on my own with my kids. Any advice is appreciated
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7 Cups Online Therapy / by goodPomegranate8307
Last post
 October 26th, 2023
...See more I dont know what to do. I feel that I am no longer happy in my relationship. Quick backstory, I feel secondary in his life. He puts his needs first and always has. I raised our 2 boys basically like a single mom. He always made time to golf, go out with his buddies....everything. And shame on me for not speaking up years and years ago. Fast forward to now. When I think I have the courage to speak my mind and talk about separation, my guilt takes over and I back away. But Im not happy. I am the income maker for the household. So I feel guilty that he would have nowhere to go and I know he wont stay here in the house because he could not afford it on his own. I dont have anyone to lean on and confide in or to ask advice. Im so torn
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