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healingconscious
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Letting go someone you have strong bond with but don’t want to marry.
Relationship Stress / by healingconscious
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 January 11th, 2022
...See more Hey everyone ~ I have been working on letting go of a very deep safe space connection with a lover and partner; however, I feel I’ve never fully committed to him or see us getting married. We have been going through a toxic cycle, due to him not feeling wanted and fully loved. He tries his best to meet other people to get his needs met, then he always comes back after he has merged with other women sexually and emotionally. Since the bond is so strong I have such a hard time saying no when he comes back, but It puts me in a painful situation. It hurts me to watch him date other people, and since I’m so emotionally attached and feel guilty for not fully loving him I let him come back out of pain or loneliness or to feel that safety again. This likely goes hand and hand with me not feeling emotional safe with my dad; therefore, this relationship or best friendship has been the space to meet those needs. What I want now, is to move forward so I can find someone I feel both emotionally safe with but also outrageously romantic/attracted to them. How do you deal with the pain of letting someone who has held such a safe space for you go, face the loneliness, and start coping on your own….. how do you face the pain of losing the bond? I want this. That’s what I keep trying to tell myself. <3
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