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Customer left a weird note on the receipt and it
Anxiety Support / by hello1987
Last post
 February 23rd, 2020
...See more This sounds so dumb, I'm sure. I'm a server and one of my first tables of the day was a woman all by hersel. I'd say 40-45 years old. Everything was fine. She was ready to order as soon as I sat her. She ate and left. She tipped $5 on a $17 bill which is more than 20%, but she wrote "quack" on the receipt with my tip on it. What the F is she trying to tell me? Is this new slang I don't know about? Is she calling me a quack? Like a joke? I'm not trying to overthink it, but what could it possibly mean? I looked up to see if there was a new slang definition, but it just shows the definition for quack as the sound a duck makes, or an ignorant person in the medical field. Is she calling me ignorant? I. Don't. Get. It.
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My boyfriend is heartless.
Relationship Stress / by hello1987
Last post
 January 13th, 2020
...See more On Friday I came home from work around 12:30 at night with the flu. I had been throwing up in a grocery bag all the way home. My boyfriend (of 7 years) asked me if he could go out to the bar since I was just going to bed. I reluctantly said okay. It was late, the bars were closing soon, and he'd be home soon no problem. So all day the next day he's sleeping or sleepy and grumpy from being out late the night before. I'm throwing up all day, and finally at 8 he asks if he can go out to eat with a friend. As he's out to eat I send him cute videos of me and our 3 year old playing on the couch, she's all over me. I tell him I can't get a second to relax but I say it lightheartedly. 2 hours go by and I ask him his ETA. He says he is at this hole in the wall bar. This bar has boarded up windows, no tv, and uses paper cups instead of glasses. I don't see a reason for him to be at the bar when I have it coming out of both ends at home with a 3 year old. I responded sarcastically that it was fine, I would love for him to come home buzzed because i like it when he drinks especially when I'm sick with the baby. He starts calling me a bitch. He's a very bad drunk. A couple weeks ago, the last time he got really drunk - he was all smiles when we were out at his brother in laws party. He whispered to me it was probably time to go. On the way out to the car he said he wanted to fight someone and didn't know why. He walked in the house and said he wanted to kick our daughters play kitchen and didn't know why. Told me he wanted to put his cigarette out on me and didn't know why. I went to bed. He follows me, apologizes, and kisses me. Gets undressed for a shower. For some reason gets dressed again and come lays on me. Rolls over on the bed and is silent for a second and then freaks out because he was scared and I didn't comfort him. Hell breaks lose. I become absolutely silent except for telling him I don't know what to say because I'm afraid of triggering him. Throughout the night he's throwing stuff at me and yelling "do something! Fight! Yell! React!" Calling me a do nothing, a grain of sand. I refuse to respond because there'd be no way to calm him down and fighting would make it worse. He ends up throwing me out of bed after I dozed off, head first onto the floor and just leaves me there and lays in bed. The next morning I just take the baby and go eat, etc. he texts me that I'm trash. we talk about it days later and he promises he's going to take an entire week off of work and get counseling and anger management. This isn't the first or 20th time crazy things have happened. He's gotten into a hit and run after coming to my job wasted threatening me. He's strangled me in my sleep years ago. He's been doing better as far as abuse goes, but that's because he doesn't drink as much as he used to. so I'm not trying to just be super controlling when I don't want him at the bar when I'm really sick with the flu. I need help, not a guy with an admitted drinking problem stopping at the bar while I'm waiting for him. ill take a second and admit yes, I did go to the bar with him that one night but that's after weeks of me being told i don't balance mom and social life at all and I needed to go out with him. His brother in laws birthday party was at a bowling alley a block away from our house and we had our daughters friend offer to have a slumber party so it all just worked out and so I went. Even right now, he's asleep in his daughters bed (my step, who is at her moms) and I had to go in there and get something and it just wreaks. It smells like how drunk nick smells when he wakes up. And I have issues with that smell. From years of bad things happening when he's drunk. Passing out on the lawn of the house we just bought, faced up with his penis hanging out of his pants. And peeing all over the house, that was a phase. what's worse is the next morning when his anger continues for no reason. Doesn't matter if I was strangled or thrown off the bed, he sticks to his guns for days about how I'm "the meanest person he's ever met", "you're trash". And I ask him, why? Why? You just bought me a ring on Christmas, but after you freak out drunk over nothing, I'm trash? But then I stop talking to you for days and call family looking for a way out, and you have this long conversation with me about getting help, but now that you're at the bar again when I'm sick with the baby, I'm the meanest person you've ever met?
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