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Any tips of regulating hyper fixation
Anxiety Support / by helloZebra8088
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 December 4th, 2025
...See more Ive noticed the things that used to help me deal with a hyper-fixated obsession dont seem to be working the way they use to. So im interested in hearing some other options to try , so the fixation dont become all consuming like they are right now.
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What are some of your tips and tricks to deal with hyper fixation
Autism Support / by helloZebra8088
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 December 4th, 2025
...See more I have noticed that my fixation on either hobbies, or crafts, or problems are becoming more intense. The things I use to do to regulate myself and not hyper-fixated on one particular thing dont seem to be as effective as they once were. I am curious to see if there are other things that might help me regulate a little better.
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Asked for space to work on us, got told divorce was the next step.
Relationship Stress / by helloZebra8088
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 December 4th, 2025
...See more My husband and I met when we were teenagers, I felt something right away and had this feeling that someday I was going to marry him. We went on our own paths, but ended up back in the same one, and started dating. We each had kids, very similar in age, and got married. We've been together for 16 years. Long story short, we decided to separate. We had some really good talks and conversations, we sat and made it clear our intentions were to reconcile and grow stronger for each other and our relationship. There were changes being made that I had begged for for years, there felt like a stronger connection, more intimate and physical aspects were coming a focus, and solution was definitely found. Im hopeful and encouraged, and am excited only to be told he's decided me wanting the separation hurt to much, and while he'll always love me, he wants a divorce. We put a pin in it for a minute after a conversation and some time together. I've been open about where I am at and how I want us to continue to work on this, he sent some mixed signals but I was still hopeful. But today it he matter of fact lying said he will not budget, and as much as it hurts and hes not happy about it, he thinks its how it has to be. He doesn't want to be with me anymore. Seems to get upset with me when I express that I feel like he's giving up on me. That my emotions are mine yes, and my thoughts on how it makes me feel are mine, but I want him to hear them. Maybe that's unfair of me. Ive been listening to his, no matter how hard it is to hear. I have not argued or dismissed them. I am actively working to understand them. I just feel o lost and hopeless right now. I feel like ive let our family down, him down, and I feel like my wants dont matter. I want to make rash decisions but am not, because that's not healthy. But I feel so stuck, I have for awhile but its even more persistent now. I dont really have many people to talk to. I have a lot im concerned and worried about now. I have everything stacking up on me and all I want to do is fold under the weight of it all and cry. I dont want to function, I know im depressed. I want to talk to a therapist, but I can't afford it. And even with all of that, I just want him to call and say ive made a mistake. Let's keep trying, and because I know him the way I do. He won't. Its killing me.
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