Skip to main content Skip to bottom nav
inventiveBeach1846
312 M Embraced 2
PathStep 7 Compassion hearts10 Forum posts28 Forum upvotes16 Current upvotes16 Age GroupAdult Last activeMay, 2020 Member sinceNovember 19, 2017
Bio
Recent forum posts
inventiveBeach1846 profile picture
Good friend is pushing us away and we feel upset
Relationship Stress / by inventiveBeach1846
Last post
 May 19th, 2020
...See more A friend of ours got into a relationship almost a year ago and has spent less time with us which was fine and we understood her and gave her all the time she wants/needs with her boyfriend. We spent more time with each other but we always extended an invitation to her despite us knowing that she's spending time with her boyfriend and that she lives far away because we miss her and we didn't want her to feel excluded but there are times where we hangout and we would share those moments on social media. We developed inside jokes and fond memories but we never stopped thinking of our friend. We didn't think much of it because we thought that it was harmless but later we found out that she got upset by it said and she felt replaced since we had a new friend hang with us a lot and started pushing us away. We tried to talk to her about it but she was a bit vague about some of her feelings except for when she said that she felt left out. On that part, we were wrong and we should have tried harder to express our feelings of missing her company to her but we can't help but feel upset at how she is still acting because we explained our side and apologized already but it is like she just shut the door at us. She is aware that we invite her for things and that we are willing to make adjustments. We thought that sharing those moments was harmless sinceasince she posts about her bf. We feel bad for making her feel replaced. It was not our intention to. What should we do now? :(
inventiveBeach1846 profile picture
Lost Contact With Bestfriend and IDK Why
Relationship Stress / by inventiveBeach1846
Last post
 March 29th, 2020
...See more Ihave a situation right now and it's been bothering me for weeks to the point where i just feel really heavy and upset when i think about it. I've been bestfriends with this girl for at least a decade now and we are really close to the point like we are family. She moved to a different country three months ago and we would still communicate regularly despite the time difference. She promised me that we would always be friends and i feel anxious that she cut me off from her life without notice because our last conversation was at least two months ago and i've been thinking all sorts of reason why none of my messages seem to reach her anymore. I wonder if my replies are too boring or if i've done anything but last time i checked, we had no arguments and we would talk things over if we were upset. I feel anxious because she did something similar and broke off contact with some of her other friends for months without notice and im scared that she might have done the same to me despite the assurance that we would always try to keep the connection alive despite the distance. To calm myself down, i'm just thinking that she's probably adjusting to her new life and needs time or is probably going through something right now. Maybe it is because of that, yet i still feel horrible almost everyday because she means the world to me and is like my sister. How can i stop being anxious and sad about it? How can i be more reasonable and/or move on?
inventiveBeach1846 profile picture
What should i do about this person?
Anxiety Support / by inventiveBeach1846
Last post
 October 16th, 2019
...See more I have this friend for 3 years now and we are generally good friends and i i think that he is a good person however, i have always harbored some fear in him. We had a few arguments (they are quite minor) and he punishes you greatly when you commit a mistake which left me walking on eggshells a few times. Everyone loves him and its not hard to see why but it seems like people are scared of him as well. I don't know if its its age factor (he is older than everyone) or his charisma but in my case, i'm afraid of messing things up with him because im afraid of being rejected by everyone because of his "power" over our friends and people in general. When people try to call him out on his mistakes, he reacts greatly and at times will flip the situation so it comes out as you are the one at fault. His reactions really scare me and im im afraid of coming off as a shitty friend for feeling this way, what should i do? I feel terrified and stuck
inventiveBeach1846 profile picture
Confused and Angry
Relationship Stress / by inventiveBeach1846
Last post
 June 2nd, 2019
...See more I have a friend who i want to cut out but i am unsure on how to do that.... I have always Webeen scared of her temper but we were doing good until i got annoyed at some of her habits and she verbally abused me and my fear of triggering her grew deeper and i was always walking on eggshells. Despite this, i forgave her because i still wanted to be friends but i i regret that now.... She and my bestfriend had a fight and part of this is because my bestfriend could not stand her treatment of others and the things this friend has been saying behind my back. The things she has been saying are untrue and i was generally unaffected until i found out that she has been degrading my econimic status when we shop together and has been telling her family and others that i am hooked on drugs which i am not. She has been backstabbing me way before i got annoyed at her. This made me extremely angry and i started ignoring her unless its necessary. I want her out of my life but i am scared that she could do something as bad as the verbal abuse again. Should i continue to keep my distance or not?
Search more from @inventiveBeach1846
Considering Therapy?
Talk to an expert therapist
Badges & Awards
8 total badges
Hand Shake Linked Quintet First Post Reaching out Helping out First Compassion Forum Friend
Report an issue