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Silent treatment
Relationship Stress / by ivoryBanana2889
Last post
 November 20th, 2022
...See more Back story - I (25f) and been dating D (35m), for a few months. 23rd October I became quite ill with tonsillitis, and over the next few days/weeks I remained ill with other stuff (still currently ill). I worked 24th - 28th, and then I went to a party with D on 28th October after work, and another on 29th October. I felt terrible 30th October so cancelled my own plans and rested instead. I worked the 31st - 4th, and was meant to go for a dinner with D with loads of his friends but cancelled last minute because I felt terrible. I took medication and slept 11 hours, feeling better when I woke up, but still being ill. I started to get ready for a party on the 5th, D got into a fight that morning and went to A&E, I was messaging him the whole time asking for updates and such, as I cannot visit hospital with the symptoms I had. I decided to still go to the party (as I had gone to the other ones being much more ill, with him), and had my phone on me the whole time checking for his updates - this was when he started giving me the silent treatment until the 8th. I messaged everyone who I thought would know about updates, and started to drive to his parents house (an hour away) to see it they knew anything, this was when he messaged saying he was at his parents and he didn't want to speak to me atm but we needed to talk, which I said to him was understandable and I'd not message again until he messaged me. This was almost a week ago - his friends are posting petty stuff about beating me up because I didn't go to the hospital but I wasn't allowed - I can understand being upset I went to a party but I was constantly checking for updates, and only went to the parties because I'd been previously being ill. My choices were either go to the party or stay at home, either way I was waiting for updates which never came I can admit to being in the wrong for going to the party, but receiving silent treatment from him, and his friends threatening (not to me, just posting stuff about beating people up who are mean to their friends) to beat me up is getting all too much
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Sexually assaulted by my girlfriend
Trauma Support / by ivoryBanana2889
Last post
 December 29th, 2021
...See more Me (24, female) and my girlfriend (24, female) had been dating a few months at this point, and have had sex several times. I usually sleep naked or with underwear on, that night I had underwear on but took it off before going to sleep. We both woke up around the same time, she went to the toilet then came back and put her hand on my body, affectionately. She noticed I didn't have my underwear on so said something like "oh, when did these come off, we should do something", I said that I was tired and wanted to sleep. She carried on touching me and I just laid there, silent while she penetrated me with her fingers for what felt like forever. Once she was finished she said "I bet you're glad you didn't go to sleep", I just rolled over and tried to sleep. That was the last time we did anything intimate. I ended the relationship due to the sexual assault, being stressed all the time and other reasons. Decided to get back together a few days later but now I don't know if that was a mistake She knew about my past, I dropped out of university because a guy raped me, I quit a job because I got sexually assaulted by a work colleague, and work did nothing about it, and all the countless times I've been sexually assaulted and harassed day to day (including my current job). She somewhat apologised for it, and didn't realise it was sexual assault, but she hasn't given me a proper apology or spoke about boundaries going forward/how I would like to feel safe and such Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How should I go about bringing this up with her or should I just call it quits? It's currently making me very upset she hasn't spoken to me about it, so either I bring it up or I'm just going to be stressed again One of the reasons I broke up with her is she really needs to speak to a therapist, and she is going to be doing that this Thursday, should I wait until after that to speak to her?
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