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jenead
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PathStep 46 Compassion hearts82 Forum posts23 Forum upvotes49 Current upvotes49 Age GroupAdult Last activeSeptember, 2025 Member sinceJune 13, 2020
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Is this overreacting?
Relationship Stress / by jenead
Last post
 August 1st, 2025
...See more I was watching tv and moving things around and talking about what food to order for dinner. I was watching with my husband and friend. He said “move, you’re standing in front of the tv” and my initial response was “no I’m not.” For perspective, I was standing off to the side and didn’t realize that what I was holding could have resulted in him not seeing. He asked if I was calling him a liar. I said no and he told me “fine then don’t move then, clearly I’m a liar.” I said that I never said that and apologized saying that I didn’t realize the things in my hand could have been blocking his view. He immediately stopped talking to me and has not said a word the rest of the night. After the show ended, I said that I was just gonna go to bed. My friend told me I don’t understand empathy and that I implied he was lying and me shutting down and not talking about it by going to bed ruined the night. Again, I apologized and said that I didn’t think that I was in the way and I may have responded too quickly but I genuinely was not calling or implying that anyone is a liar. They both are standing firm and now no one is talking to me. I feel like they are both overreacting and it should have just been a small thing. I don’t know thought.
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My husband got upset with me and implied I’m a bad mom and don’t do anything right
Family & Caregivers / by jenead
Last post
 April 1st, 2025
...See more We were playing Uno with our 5 and 6 year olds who were getting silly lost track of whose turn was next. I said who was next and he said I need to let them figure it out. Happened again and he and I started to say different things at the same time. He then said “just play” and sat silent the rest of the game. When the kids asked to do something after he told them he only wants to play with good listeners. Then he told me that my actions (doing things for them and talking over him) made him the bad guy and that’s how it always is. This is just another one of my messes he “needs to fix.” I explained that I thought that they were being goofy and I was trying to redirect them back. I wouldn’t intentionally talk over him or interrupt. He said if I can’t see that I was in the wrong then he can’t help me. He then walked away to walk the dog without allowing me to respond. I wouldn’t be so frustrated if this wasn’t becoming more frequent. He always talks about how he knows everything and the reason we have good kids is because of him and anytime things don’t go right is because I did or did not do something. I work out of the house (childcare teacher) and he stays home. I’ve told him how this makes me feel which according to him is my problem that I need to fix. And then I get the silent treatment. It’s all just very demoralizing because obviously we all make mistakes but I genuinely don’t think that this moment needed that kind of reaction.
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Family angry about not attending wedding
Family & Caregivers / by jenead
Last post
 March 30th, 2022
...See more Long story short is that my brother in law got married over the weekend. They've only known each other a year and their relationship has caused a lot of issues within the family. My brother in law has not spoken to us or awknowleged either of our daughter's birthdays for two years and family is mad that we aren't keeping communication going. His new wife has stretched stories to make her look like a victim and then says things like "oh is that my fault. I feel so awful. I would never want to cause any problems for anyone." Then will send texts about how she's always here for us because we're family now. We did not attend the wedding due to COVID (unvaccinated guests, our kids can't be vaccinated because they are too young, and our oldest has asthma and a history of febrile seizures, youngest was born premature with underdeveloped lungs). We've been pretty firm throughout the pandemic on maintaining safety precautions and said that no matter what else is going on we would have been there if not for COVID. His new wife asked if we'd like to attend virtually a month ago. We said yes and she promised to send a link. She never did. The family is super angy because we didn't change our minds to show up or remind her to send the link. We've talked with the family is in circles over this and told we are crazy and cold hearted. I'm very stressed out and not sure what else to do.
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SAHM is asking for a break bad
Family & Caregivers / by jenead
Last post
 March 8th, 2022
...See more I'm a SAHM of two amazing girls. They are 3 and 2 years old. I love being able to stay home and take care of them. There are some days I just feel exhausted. I brought this up to my husband. He's started his own business and works from home. It's a new business so he's really busy right now but can go by his own schedule. I asked if I could have a break now and then even if it was for 20-30 minutes so I could shower or have a little time for myself that wasn't after bedtime. His response was along the lines of "this is what you wanted", "I shouldn't have to feel guilty for working", "you didn't take midday showers when you were working", and "if you want time for yourself wake up earlier". I'm regretting saying anything at all and now I'm feeling like a bad mom for wanting a break.
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Am I the problem?
Relationship Stress / by jenead
Last post
 June 14th, 2020
...See more My husband and I decided a few months back that we'd be separating. We've never fought just kind of drifted apart. We're still best friends. We have two girls under two...one being born in March. The second baby made it so I could no longer stay at my job. Since our relationship has been so good, we decided to stay living together until I get that all figured out. I've been looking but no luck at this point. It's hard because even though the change is for the better I have a lot of uncertainty going forward. I also told him I miss little things but am trying to move forward. In order to help make ends meet we decided to look for a roommate to stay in our basement. We've both met her a couple times. She came from a different state and has no car but she cooks and was able to pay. Seemed like an ok fit. From the minute she got here I had a funny feeling. She was really nice but everything she did seem to bother me and I couldn't figure out what. We were all getting along but I just couldn't shake this feeling. Fast forward to a week ago. It was storming outside and something blew and hit the house hard enough to wake me at 3am. The two of them had been playing video games before so I went in to check if they'd heard it too. I walked in on them. I don't care that he's moving on I just am so hurt it's while we're living together. Both have made it seem like I didn't respect privacy and overreacted. I'm so hurt but if I am doing what they said I want to know.
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