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kindPlum3623
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How to connect with my sisters
Family & Caregivers / by kindPlum3623
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 23 hours ago
...See more My sisters had a not so normal childhood. I have 4 sisters and I am number 2. My oldest and youngest, lived with my mom but then my older sister took my little sister in as she was starting middle school and took care of her until she graduated, up until now. That shaped and affected their relationship. Lost story short, my younger sister feels like she is alone in the world but she has a really nasty attitude about it. Unappreciative and just down right mean. If something doesn’t go her way the whole world is against her and you can’t prove her wrong. Recently we got into an argument because she asked me to help her with something but in actuality she wanted me to do the whole thing for her and I told her I would help. Well my plan to help didn’t work out and she got upset because I could have just did it her for. Well the next day she got upset at my other younger sister and I for not saying hi to her when we each got home. I tried to talk with her and it just went south. What I am looking for is a way to connect with her but to also help her understand that her nastiness pushes me away. I have learned to keep my peace and care about my sister but she disrupts that peace. What can I do? Thanks is advance everyone!
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Question for anyone to answer! Looking for a different perspective
20 & Over / by kindPlum3623
Last post
 July 12th
...See more You are your husband and being intimidate. Mid sesh, you notice he is wearing an AirPod and is listening to his current favorite audiobook. Does this turn you on or turn you off??
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I can’t afford marriage counseling
Relationship Stress / by kindPlum3623
Last post
 October 6th, 2025
...See more Everyday I burden my husband with my concerns about our marriage and he is overwhelmed with it. We don’t communicate well and he isn’t the most understanding. We can talk about how we should communicate but when it comes to executing things, it comes out wrong and one way or another someone is offended and we are arguing for hours and hours. Wasting precious time when we could be having a good time. I’m tired of the cycle and feel stuck. Whether I triggered him first or he triggered me first, I always end up being the one to try to mediate the situation. I end up addressing his concerns meanwhile mine get swept under his feelings. Any helpful suggestions would be great! Any cheap options for counseling are appreciated as well. TIA!!!
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Looking for some insight
Relationship Stress / by kindPlum3623
Last post
 January 18th, 2025
...See more my husband and I have been together for almost a decade. We have been married for about 3 years. We struggle with healthy communication skills but we are working on it. We struggle most with our language, no cursing of the sort, but saying things that put the other on the defense. We are striving to work on it with no outside council as we don’t know anyone in a healthy relationship or marriage and we can’t afford couples/marriage counseling. my question is, sometimes when I address something to my husband that I want to change or just telling him how I prefer to do things, his response is something along the lines of “things won’t always go your way” without suggesting otherwise. It seems he isn’t fond of the things I suggest but he isn’t initiating finding another way to get the job done. I don’t understand how we can problem solve this issue when it comes up. i understand we are different people and won’t always do things alike and i am always willing to listen to other suggestions but it just seems like he wants to shut down the way i like to do things. i want him to be more flexible. More willing to do things that help me out or simply make me more comfortable. I even try to let him know I’m not asking him to change how he chooses to do things, but when it comes to dealing with me I asked that he be understanding and consider the person that I am. am I asking too much? Am I asking the wrong thing?
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Going to a strip club/gentlemens club/cabaret
Relationship Stress / by kindPlum3623
Last post
 September 12th, 2022
...See more So my husband and I were having a conversation about strip clubs and I told him that him going to a club with barely clothed women and entertaining them is not something I am comfortable with him doing. I would feel completely disrespected and feel cheated on. That’s just my opinion. Well him on the other hand, his response is that if he can’t go then I can’t go. I said that fair. I won’t go to anything where there would be barely clothes men like strip clubs amongst other things. But he said it can’t be any strip club if any kind. Men or women. I asked why and he said it isn’t fair that I can tell him what to do but then go and do the same thing I’m telling him he can’t do. No matter how I explained that men going to see women naked and women going to see men naked are the same. But for me since I am a heterosexual female, me going to see naked women would be the same as him going to see naked men. No matter how I explained it he feels like if I were to go to a club with barely clothed women that he would do it too if he had the chance just for the simple fact that I already did it. It doesn’t make sense to me and I just don’t agree with how he is going about this situation.
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Am I being too sensitive?
Relationship Stress / by kindPlum3623
Last post
 June 9th, 2022
...See more My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 yrs. He is 25 and I am 24. We have been living together for about 5 years now. I’ve noticed recently that when I tell him about something new I’m doing, he always gives me “better” options or suggestions and it makes me feel like he isn’t supportive of the decision I am making. For example, I told him I want to do at home workouts versus being in the gym and he always makes a point to ask me to go to the gym with him even tho I told him I don’t want to. I also told him that I was thinking about registering for an Practical nursing program. And his first response was suggesting I become and RN which is one step ahead a LPN. He’s always suggesting better options or what he thinks is better when I think he should just support what I tell him.
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