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Abusive childhood and feeling behind as an adult
Family & Caregivers / by lavenderBlueberry9750
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 July 23rd, 2024
...See more Hi! Not really sure if this is the right place for my question, I’m going to give a brief summary and then ask it. Basically, I’m minimal contact with my mom and other family members (I have a sibling that I’m very close with, we go to family stuff together sometimes) and my dad committed suicide last year (I was fully no contact with him) because they were abusive and neglectful. For a long while everyone thought we were ‘so mature’ and well behaved but now as grown-ups it’s been hard for both of us to handle different parts of adulthood. I moved out about a year ago and honestly it’s been going well, I feel so much better mentally now. My issue recently has been there’s just grown-up stuff that no one has ever taught to me or explained and it’s so overwhelming. Does that get easier to deal with? Do you ever stop feeling like you’re behind compared to folks who had decent parents? Currently I feel like I’m playing catch-up on things that the other people my age were taught years ago. Practical things like dealing with health insurance and relationship things like how to talk to other people, and even how to balance my time so I’m not doing too much and being burnt-out and not skipping out on my responsibilities. For those of you who have dealt with something similar, does it get easier?
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