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I have a person marked as "Right person, wrong time" : but I don't know what to feel
Relationship Stress / by lifeishardbutillbefine
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 May 13th, 2022
...See more I met a guy online. Now we have known each other for a year. We've never made anything official, but we have expressed mutual romantic and sexual desire for one another. But at one point we drifted apart and remained friends. During this long time period, he dated several others, all of which did not go well (he got cheated on) and lasted maximum of a month. It got to the point where he got backlash from his friends because he would break up with someone and then find another partner within a few days. About a few weeks ago, we contacted each other again. He asks me if we can have romantic relations again, which I accepted. He said that when we drifted apart he got with several others because he was impatient and kept hurting himself with them. Said that he always cared for me. Then 2 days later asks if we can remain friends, because this wasn't realistic. We lived on separate continents, our love languages were apparently different, and he took issue in distance. I don't want to make him feel unloved. So I accepted this turn of events. And recently. Recently we got "married" as a joke, but then actual feelings started resurfacing so we were back on romantic terms. Then I felt distance. I asked him if we were friends or more. He says we're more of friends now because he's confused on his feelings between me and a real life girl he met. Now that you know the backstory, I don't really know how to deal with this. There's a point at which you need to just stop, right? I want to say he's my soulmate, that I would want to fly to him and be together, and I'd do that, even as friends. I just don't know what to do with my feelings at the end of this. What are your thoughts on this? Does he actually care for me?
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