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lifenomad
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Unexpectedly Emotionally Unavailable
Relationship Stress / by lifenomad
Last post
 June 17th, 2020
...See more So let me get this straight. The only reason I let him in in the beginning is because he said that he is looking for someone to love and all those things that are in a relationship. Fine, and I was upfront with him too about looking for the same thing. This was all during lockdown. When the lockdown abated, we met 3 times. He wasn't as affectionate in person compared to texting. We continued texting every day and our texts sound like what any other couples would text each other. Now almost 3 months later, I communicated with him that if anytime he's into someone else, he should let me know and we must part ways. So that's out in the open. His reply to that is telling me that he needs to be okay with himself and heal from his past traumas before even looking to be in a relationship. I'm not sure how to handle this situation or even what healthy train of thought to have? Because it's a completely new situation to me. I'm also tired / lazy to look for someone else because of all my past hurts. I thought I did the right thing by purposely not starting anything with emotionally unavailable guys, but now here I am. What do I do?
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Socializing with "friends" at work
Anxiety Support / by lifenomad
Last post
 December 15th, 2019
...See more I have always been the loner at my previous workplaces, but I've decided to change things at this current workplace, so I started to open myself up to people. It's such a challenge, rewarding at times. The first person that I opened up to is this seemingly friendly girl, R. Later in the friendship as I got closer to her, I started seeing the real her and it unsettled me alot. One of the biggest things she did was to talk about me behind my back. I have trouble trusting people and the fact that she talks about me triggers my distrust and I could never look at her the same way again. The reason I suspect that she talks about me is when I didn't call her to join a work meeting because she wasn't on the project, the second is that when she tried to boss me around, by dictating even the words that I'm chatting with to a supervisor, and I just froze and didn't listen to her. Those are just minor things that didn't even need to be dictated because I know english, it's not like I don't know how to write down even simple sentences. She seemed pissed off that I didnt type out the words that she dictated to me and she went to the keyboard where I was and typed it out herself. That behaviour is really immature and she was the one who was younger than me. Another thing is that she's a spoilt youngest child in her family and she proudly admits it. Since she discovered that I won't listen, she starts to hate on me, especially behind my back. She's charming and manipulative
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