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ljoe
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How to comfort a grieving partner
Anxiety Support / by ljoe
Last post
 January 30th, 2024
...See more Hi I would like some advice on how to comfort a partner who recently lost a family member. We’re currently long distance, and I want to be present for my partner but whenever I reach out he seems to be distant. I understand completely what he’s going through but my anxiety is making it worse, and I don’t know what to do.
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Trauma
Relationship Stress / by ljoe
Last post
 November 5th, 2023
...See more I’ve recently gotten into a new relationship and everything was fine for the first 3 months but recently I noticed some behavior changes in my boyfriend. Like he doesn’t do the little things he does anymore for me, which makes me anxious and overthink a lot if I did something. When I opened up about this to him he explained that the environment he has at his home is recently becoming really toxic and he feels lost and doesn’t know what to do. I understand him completely and why this would make him change but I have a hard time trusting him even though he reassures me that he still loves me and he’s not going anywhere. I feel that my trauma/trust issues from my previous relationship is affecting how I can trust my current boyfriend, because that previous relationship made me question and extremely anxious whenever we had a rough patch, his solution was to end the relationship but I kept saying that we should be fighting for it and this made me anxious and overthink if previous ex still loved me because even though I knew that he didn’t loved me anymore, he still kept the relationship going. I’m afraid that this rough patch that me and my current boyfriend have now will also lead to that, but I know that they’re completely different people, and I still don’t know why I can’t trust his reassurance.
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What should I do?
Relationship Stress / by ljoe
Last post
 August 18th, 2021
...See more I've opened up with my boyfriend that I feel like we don't talk much since most of the day he's either asleep or he's playing games, when I did he told me that he's having a hard time adjusting with the pandemic and not being able to see me since his love language is physical touch and that the pandemic is making him distant. And because of this he had 2nd thoughts on our relationship if we should continue it or not. There's also the thing that he's currently studying medicine and that his parents are pressuring him so much that it's also another reason why he's being so distant lately. I keep telling him that I understand and I want to keep fighting for our relationship but his reponses feel like he's pushing me away like: "you're in a relationship with me, it's only going to get harder and harder," "ill keep fighting until I know there's nothing left to fight anymore." I just don't know what to do and I'm afraid that if I opened up again he might just end our relationship and that's not what I want for us..
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