What should I do?
I've opened up with my boyfriend that I feel like we don't talk much since most of the day he's either asleep or he's playing games, when I did he told me that he's having a hard time adjusting with the pandemic and not being able to see me since his love language is physical touch and that the pandemic is making him distant. And because of this he had 2nd thoughts on our relationship if we should continue it or not. There's also the thing that he's currently studying medicine and that his parents are pressuring him so much that it's also another reason why he's being so distant lately. I keep telling him that I understand and I want to keep fighting for our relationship but his reponses feel like he's pushing me away like: "you're in a relationship with me, it's only going to get harder and harder," "ill keep fighting until I know there's nothing left to fight anymore." I just don't know what to do and I'm afraid that if I opened up again he might just end our relationship and that's not what I want for us..
@ ljoe,
I feel you.
The reasons he comes up with might not be the real reasons, that is how it feels to me.
You can try to have another talk, expressing how you feel, just you. If he persists in not showing understanding, then sit down with your true self. Use mindfulness, f.i. focus on your breathing, taking slow deeper breaths (not too deep, it should not take any effort). Keep focusing on breathing until you feel relaxed. Then look at the situation. Anything you can do about it, apart from expressing how you feel? If so, does taking action help your true self? Would it be an action from deep within, or an action created by your mind. If you can't do anything about the situation here and now, in this present moment, then there is nothing you have to do.
Focus on your true self first, and you know what to do.
Warmth and love to you.
Thank you so much ❤