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Relationship Stress / by lovelyMe23
Last post
 November 12th, 2021
...See more I’ve been dealing with a guy off and on for the last year he is older (35) and I am(28)I met him off a dating site last year and we matched immediately he started messaging me repeatedly and calling me through the app repeatedly so finally I responded and he told me that he liked what he saw and that he was interested in getting to know me so for the first 3 days he would constantly call me or text me through out the day even when I told him I was busy at work or that I would respond when I get a chance he still would try to text and call and once I explained to him that I’m not attached to my phone 24/7 he got upset but he got over it so everything seemed okay until he started saying he wanted to get married(we have only been talking 4 days at this point)I told him let’s get to know one another first he advised me that we can do that when we are married and also he was talking about kids having kids with 3 weeks.I told him that things were moving too fast and that I think he needed to find someone who fits his needs and he proceeded to ask me was I dumping him (I did not know We were official!) and after I insisted that he move on he tells me that he loves me I told him to just move on and he never responded.i blocked him on the dating app 3 weeks later he figured out I blocked him and he makes a new profile and reaches out to me asking me for forgiveness and that he made a mistake and too give him another chance to make a good impression so for like 3 days everything was going okay then he started wanting me to sleep with him and Wanting to have threesomes I am more Of an monogamous type of woman (I do not Judge other peoples lifestyles)and at the time I worked in retail part time he had a issue with that he didn’t want guys looking at me all or me speaking to the opposite sex didn’t like the fact that although we had the same car model his was a 2015 Honda Accord and mine was a 2019 Honda Accord he didn’t like that mine was newer than his .i caught him still being on the dating site while supposedly wanting to be with me I would ask him to take me out on a date and also get a Std test before I become intimate with him he refused both and would not even consider wearing a condom .he said he was too old to be hanging out but yet he would go out to the clubs with this brother but made every excuse as too why he couldn’t take me out unless we go to a strip club.or a hotel And also he made comments toward my weight and that I needed too lose weight!:( So I again ceases Contact andThis off and on would continue until January where again he contacts me again same Old same old I told him what I wanted I wanted a date to be treated like somebody and I wanted to get to know him Seriously but again he would say things then do the opposite .after I refused the threesome again. He left me on read and did notRespond to me so I blocked And changed my number and 7 months went by and he reached out to me In September via dating app stating his missed me very much and that he was sorry and wants another shot we talked for 2 days and all he could Talk About was sex sex and that he did not Sleep With anyone the whole time we were not talking and I told him That I would love to move forward and start clean but I would prefer to be taken out on a real date and let’s start to build a relationship I found out he was talking to another girl at this point I am mad and I did not speak to Him and 1 Month later he texts me And says he thought I was ignoring him and following it up with texts Messages back to back and finally he called me but I did not answer I am Tired I told him that if I find somebody and move on how would he feel ? He told me that he would be mad and that he will not get over it ! And while we were having a norMal conversation I must have said something that made him Upset he ghosted me mid conversation and did not respond or call me until The next day and I ended up Apologizing to him because I felt Like I did something wrong and all he said was okay .he told me he wants 1 Child but he do not like kids and I told him I’m not ready itsThings I still want to accomplish and that I enjoy having no kids too Look after he told me that that’s why he is going To give me a baby so that way I will not have any freedom!i am so tired I do not know what to do or feel I have never dealt with someone like this before It’s new to me he says he loves me but In the same breathe has not taking me out on any dates I’ have blocked him for Good This time I just so emotionally drained and confused I do not know what to do I haven’t had many relationships maybe 1 But that was back in high school This is my first adult situation does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with this ?
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Relationship Stress / by lovelyMe23
Last post
 August 25th, 2021
...See more Just venting , posted a post months ago about a situation where I had to cut a guy off due to him constantly requesting Sex and not wanting to Date me properly,he didn’t want to take me out on dates unless I give him Intercourse and criticizing me about my weight he is 10 years older than me he is 37 I am 27,we met back In October of 2020 and we met on a dating app he would call me multiple times and chat me multiple times until I finally gave in.we were talking for 3 days and he started saying how he was already in love with me and wanted kids and of course this was too fast so I terminated things with him and then he came back weeks later saying he had changed and that he missed me I believed him and then we met up in person finally and shortly after the meeting he made comments about my weight and he wanted me to lose weight(he already knew what I looked like we have FaceTimed and ive sent him photos of me before the meetup)it made me feel bad about my appearance in one breath he wanted to sleep with me then in another breath he had issues with my weight ,so I stopped talking to him again then we rekindled our relationship.because yet again i believe his lies ,this time he wanted sex and at this point I was not ready because I did not know his status or the number of partners he had previously before me he claimed he has only slept with 4 people his whole life and I did not believe that because he always wants sex and I told him that he would Have to be tested before I sleeps with him or atleast wear a condom he flat refused to Do so and he wanted me to have threesomes and things that I’m not into I do not judge anyone who is but I’m not into That .I officially cut him off for 7 months back in January .and honestly I missed him but I did not miss the inconsistency or not knowing What his true intentions are .fast forward he reached out to me again 2 days ago same song and dance every thing goes good then it goes to crap.this time I’m tired of it I do not know what to do.he was telling me That he loved me and wanted to Marry me and what not but I found out he is still frequenting Dating sites including the one we met on because it tells you when a person is online.this was not the first time He has done ThIs,.I told Him that he should just be single because he is still wanting other women since he is still on dating sites and in the midst of the argument he kept telling me to marry him and that’s what you want I did not respond because I am just so over it ,I deserve better I just wanted to vent because I don’t have any friend or close girl friends to vent to
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