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User Profile: lovelyMe23
lovelyMe23 August 25th, 2021

Just venting , posted a post months ago about a situation where I had to cut a guy off due to him constantly requesting Sex and not wanting to Date me properly,he didn’t want to take me out on dates unless I give him Intercourse and criticizing me about my weight he is 10 years older than me he is 37 I am 27,we met back

In October of 2020 and we met on a dating app he would call me multiple times and chat me multiple times until I finally gave in.we were talking for 3 days and he started saying how he was already in love with me and wanted kids and of course this was too fast so I terminated things with him and then he came back weeks later saying he had changed and that he missed me I believed him and then we met up in person finally and shortly after the meeting he made comments about my weight and he wanted me to lose weight(he already knew what I looked like we have FaceTimed and ive sent him photos of me before the meetup)it made me feel bad about my appearance in one breath he wanted to sleep with me then in another breath he had issues with my weight ,so I stopped talking to him again then we rekindled our relationship.because yet again i believe his lies ,this time he wanted sex and at this point I was not ready because I did not know his status or the number of partners he had previously before me he claimed he has only slept with 4 people his whole life and I did not believe that because he always wants sex and I told him that he would

Have to be tested before I sleeps with him or atleast wear a condom he flat refused to

Do so and he wanted me to have threesomes and things that I’m not into I do not judge anyone who is but I’m not into

That .I officially cut him off

for 7 months back in January .and honestly I missed him but I did not miss the inconsistency or not knowing

What his true intentions are .fast forward he reached out to me again 2 days ago same song and dance every thing goes good then it goes to crap.this time I’m tired of it I do not know what to do.he was telling me

That he loved me and wanted to

Marry me and what not but I found out he is still frequenting Dating sites including the one we met on because it tells you when a person is online.this was not the first time

He has done ThIs,.I told Him that he should just be single because he is still wanting other women since he is still on dating sites and in the midst of the argument he kept telling me to marry him and that’s what you want I did not respond because I am just so over it ,I deserve better I just wanted to vent because I don’t have any friend or close girl friends to vent to



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User Profile: PumpkabooKayla
PumpkabooKayla August 25th, 2021

@lovelyMe23

It sounds to me like you're frustrated that you feel used by that guy. It's good that you took action on your feelings and did what you needed to do to feel respected. No one deserves to feel like they're being used for sex or to be constantly pulled back and forth between being desired and being insulted - as a fellow woman in her 20's, I would feel so hurt if a guy insulted my weight like that. And I understand missing someone while still knowing that they're not right for you or what you deserve - sometimes it's easy to know something logically but hard to convince your "lizard brain" of things emotionally.

I'm glad you took the time to tell your story and get your feelings out here. Good on you for deciding to put yourself first!