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marshxmallow
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Still in Emotional Affair
Relationship Stress / by marshxmallow
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 January 23rd, 2021
...See more I've been in an emotional affair for a while. I understand there's no reason to be unfaithful but to be blunt, I was broken. My spouse denied my want to go therapy(I had been secretly depressed for 4 months) and denied my feelings of depression. I understand I don't need someone else's validation to seek help, but they are the one person I hold true to my heart, my lover, my best friend...and they yelled at me for wanting therapy. I was discouraged and ended up shutting down. Now my spouse knows I've been in an emtional affair. They still wants to work out things and be together. This is absolutely destroying me inside. I get so frustrated with myself because I can't tell if I'm truly committed to him. I feel like I can't trust them to change their ways even though they promise that they will change. There has been 1-2 scary/physical(not exactly) moments. I feel emotionally abused and maybe I'm responsible for the same to them at times. I feel like we are both toxic to one another and I feel like I've been hurt more than him(not to speak for them). They never had an issue with the relationship until I confessed I was unhappy and had been for months. They have given me three ultimatums at this point. They have been patient. I have tried to address things I believe to be lacking in the relationship...but now they say I didn't try hard enough and I needed to "spell it out" for them. I don't trust them with my emotions and they shouldn't trust me.
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