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onesmallduck
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Need some strategies for driving anxiety
Anxiety Support / by onesmallduck
Last post
 May 19th, 2025
...See more hello! my partner and I are planning a trip to Boston, and we’re planning to rent a car for a few days to travel to some small towns along the coast. between the two of us, I’m a more cautious driver and I have more experience driving, so we both agreed I should probably be the driver, but I’m starting to have some doubts. I don’t know where the anxiety came from or how it started, but every time I think about driving on our trip, I get this sinking feeling that something bad is going to happen, even though I’ve never been in an accident before. I don’t tend to drive to unfamiliar places, and when I do, I try to look at the maps ahead of time to find an easier route. however, this trip throws my whole strategy out the window since I’ve never driven outside my state before, let alone Boston. I’ve tried everything I could think of, from familiarizing myself with the routes to even watching people drive on the highways over there for some exposure. I’ve talked to my partner about this, and he’s open to helping me drive and even taking over the driving responsibility (though we’re both anxious drivers which doesn’t really improve the situation either way). I lowkey feel like a loser for not being able to do something so simple. I know I can drive to unfamiliar places because I’ve done it before. I’ve always had anxiety but over time, I’ve found my ways to manage it. I worry that I can’t manage it this time, and I feel so stuck and unsure of what to do. any strategies, conventional or even straight up strange, would be greatly appreciated. thank you regardless for taking the time to read this.
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need advice for navigating big decisions
Anxiety Support / by onesmallduck
Last post
 March 18th, 2025
...See more not sure if anyone else feels this way, but the way I navigate a lot of my big decision making is by researching all of my options and organizing them into lists and charts. I have a spreadsheet for each of my major decisions such as which universities I should apply for, how should I budget to afford a long vacation, and what apartment to stay at while in grad school. I worry this may be obsessive, but it’s how my brain keeps itself organized. usually these charts and sheets keep me calm, but lately, anxiety has been bringing an itch I can’t scratch: what if, despite all my research and efforts, I still choose wrong? maybe it’s because I’m in my twenties and I haven’t lived enough life to know for a fact that I can recover from making a poor decision, or maybe it’s just the fear of the worst outcome despite me doing everything to prevent it. does anyone else feel this way? is there any advice for how to work with my anxiety through these big life moments?
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Should I transfer?
Student Support / by onesmallduck
Last post
 June 15th, 2022
...See more I’m currently a first-year college student, and I’m attending a college that is literally a thousand miles away from home. When I was applying for colleges, the only thing that mattered to me was how much my family would have to pay for my college. We weren’t financially secure, especially after COVID, so all I wanted for the sake of my family was to go somewhere that would be affordable. I ended up choosing the college I currently attend because of financial aid and nothing else. Now that I’m here, I feel so unsteady. It’s my second semester in college, and they always say that the first semester is the worst, but it just feels like it won’t get better from here. I’ve taken my time to explore the college’s opportunities and the city around me, and it just feels like there’s nothing for me here. Being a POC at a predominately white institution has also made it really hard to adjust, especially since my hometown is so much more diverse than here. In my head, I feel like I’m just a long term tourist in this place. I miss my family, my friends, and my boyfriend a lot, and I’m realizing more and more that I want my future to be in my hometown. Knowing what I know now, I’m wondering if I should transfer. I don’t know if it would be worth it to transfer and be closer to home if there is a risk of having less financial aid and having to be in college longer. The cost of traveling via car versus plane would definitely save me a lot of money, but that probably will be overwhelmed by a higher cost of tuition. A lot of people have been telling me that my problems might just be me having trouble adjusting to a completely new environment, but I’m not sure if that’s the case or if there is something more. I don’t really know what to do from here. Should I try to apply for a transfer or should I just stick it out and finish my education here? Any advice on how to make the best out of a situation you don’t want to be in?
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