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My wife is cold, what can I do?
Family & Caregivers / by optimisticBranch7040
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 May 14th, 2022
...See more So here is my story, it may be long, for that I am sorry. I am 58, my wife just turned 51 in January. We started dating in 2015, she was affectionate, caring, loving and treated me as if I were her knight in shining armor. Almost immediately after we were married, the affection stopped, now I am an affectionate guy but I also like to be on the receiving end of the affection also. I can not talk to her about anything that pertains to relationship issues, every time I have tried, it just ended up in a fight. If I tell her I need to talk, she rolls her eyes and gets what I call irritated acting from the get go. I had pretty much given up on even trying to talk to her until this past Thursday evening, I was having a really bad day thinking back on how things used to be and it depressed me. That evening I guess she could tell something was bothering me and she asked what was wrong, I told her I would give anything if I could just have a conversation with her, her reply was uh huh as she turned the TV to one of the shows she likes. I am miserable because when I live, I love whole heartedly and I have to keep my love, feelings, wants and desires suppressed so I won't hurt too bad and this makes me unhappy because I want to give her my all. Communication is key to any relationship, what can I do to help her understand this to the point she will listen with an open mind and heart instead of being cold and closed off? I have more but I will just leave it at that for now.
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