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optimisticHemlock
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Are my feelings valid?
Friendship Support / by optimisticHemlock
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 September 16th, 2022
...See more So I have a friend who I talk to regularly via social media. We both live far apart so texting is all we got. We've gotten pretty close and recently I noticed their text replies are short and no room for me to continue the conversation. When I engage I typically leave it open ended, but yet again the conversation gets a short reply. Now when I'm on social media I see them posting stories and my messages still unread. I know I sound needy but what do i do in this situation. I guess it sucks not being able to talk to someone you have fun conversations with anymore. Now if we do hang out I'm not even sure how to act, I feel like we had a falling out and now I just want to ignore them completely. I'm not even sure what happened and it's not like we argued about anything.
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Relationship Stress / by optimisticHemlock
Last post
 August 29th, 2022
...See more So at work I’m constantly working with different people. Typically I don’t make my coworkers close friends. But this one coworker of mine is really open and super outgoing. Ever since we started working together we text each other pretty often ranging from funny videos, our hobbies, life situations, and dating. I’ve grown to really like her personality and started to developed feelings for her. Also one thing to note is that we don’t hang out in person because we live hundreds of miles away from each other so it’s hard to get an actual read on her. I want to tell her about my feelings but I’m afraid I’m risking my work environment if it doesn’t work out. Also, the fact that she’s not really into dating long distance (I mean who is). In contrast she did say say “maybe”. I’m also not the type to go for coworkers because of Past experiences. We get along so well and share a lot of our hobbies, humor, and interests, that it makes me want to risk it all. I’m still not sure which is the right move; tell her or leave it be. Wondering if anyone can give advice on experiences they had similar to mines or insights on how to maybe to approach it or how it worked out for them. TLDR: i developed feelings for my coworker. I’m debating if I should tell her and risk an awkward workplace or I leave it and stop talking to her completely.
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