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Trying to get out of serving/bartending
Work & Career / by pasterofmuppets
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 1 day ago
...See more Does anyone have any experience getting out of the trap that is working for tips at a restaurant? IYKYK. I have other work experience and skills and education and lots going for me… but I’d have to take quite the pay cut for several years no matter which direction I go into next. Or so it seems. For those of you who have experienced something similar, how did you go about moving on and what was it like for you?
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I have a crush?!
35 & Over Community / by pasterofmuppets
Last post
 August 24th
...See more 35 f - I just got out of a big ol’ relationship (not officially married but we lived like we were for over a decade). It’s been 4 months. Almost immediately I started crushing on some guy at work. I may have even had a slight crush on him before, but I had no interest or wonder as far as pursuing things goes because EYEEE was fully committed to my dumb idiot ex. (Ok try to ignore the sass, but also it could be important). I love the idea of a crush. That magical silly phase before you really know someone. Being excited to see them, looking for them. Wanting to impress them or trying to act cool 😎 lol it’s fun. It’s something I missed experiencing while I was in a relationship.  My overthinking kicks into gear when I start feeling tempted to make a move. I still have very strong feelings for my ex. I want to get back together some day, but I know it’s not our time right now. Would it hurt to explore another relationship (of sorts) in the meantime? First, there’s one thing among many others that my ex (AND other exes) and crush have in common that I should maybe probably avoid: a history of serious substance abuse. The addictive personalities persist strongly, though the habits have been tamed. Second, I don’t wanna go breaking any hearts (including my own) and I’m afraid that more serious feelings could emerge. Third, I WORK WITH THE SOMBISH. I don’t want to get my men that way anymore lol I have so many reasons why not to say something to him and one reason why: I am so curious.  So... tell me what you think about this, generally speaking. Got any advice on whether or not to pursue? Or how I’d even go about it? I dunno I just wanna talk about it! 😂
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I have a crush?!
35 & Over Community / by pasterofmuppets
Last post
 August 25th
...See more 35 f - I just got out of a big ol’ relationship (not officially married but we lived like we were for over a decade). It’s been 4 months. Almost immediately I started crushing on some guy at work. I may have even had a slight crush on him before, but I had no interest or wonder as far as pursuing things goes because EYEEE was fully committed to my dumb idiot ex. (Ok try to ignore the sass, but also it could be important). I love the idea of a crush. That magical silly phase before you really know someone. Being excited to see them, looking for them. Wanting to impress them or trying to act cool 😎 lol it’s fun. It’s something I missed experiencing while I was in a relationship.  My overthinking kicks into gear when I start feeling tempted to make a move. I still have very strong feelings for my ex. I want to get back together some day, but I know it’s not our time right now. Would it hurt to explore another relationship (of sorts) in the meantime? First, there’s one thing among many others that my ex (AND other exes) and crush have in common that I should maybe probably avoid: a history of serious substance abuse. The addictive personalities persist strongly, though the habits have been tamed. Second, I don’t wanna go breaking any hearts (including my own) and I’m afraid that more serious feelings could emerge. Third, I WORK WITH THE SOMBISH. I don’t want to get my men that way anymore lol I have so many reasons why not to say something to him and one reason why: I am so curious.  So... tell me what you think about this, generally speaking. Got any advice on whether or not to pursue? Or how I’d even go about it? I dunno I just wanna talk about it! 😂
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