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peachytea11
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Slowly but surely
Anxiety Support / by peachytea11
Last post
 May 2nd, 2023
...See more Hi! I've been doing a lot better lately at trying to talk to other people, and I've actually come close to making a friend! I've talked a little before about this guy I've been interested in, and I'm really proud that I took the steps to talk to him first instead of waiting for him to initiate. We've had a couple minor conversations inside and outside of class, and I had been trying to work up the nerve to ask for his ***. It sounds so mundane in hindsight, but every time I thought about it I kept pushing it back. I eventually came up with a plan: he's told me before that he wants to get into buying more earrings (I tend to wear pretty funky earrings and he wears pretty funky rings, so we bonded a little over that) , so I decided that I would ask him if he wanted my Etsy list and if I could send it to him on ***. I wanted to do this on the last day of class since I knew he was going to be there. Well, he showed up. Talked to our teacher. Said hi to me. Left. I wasn't expecting that. I was a bit taken aback in the moment, and it slowly started to register that I missed my chance. I literally had to leave class early that day because I felt like I was gonna cry. I wasn't sad about not doing it, but angry because I had waited for so long for something so small. I ended up bursting into tears once I was about a block away from home, and I couldn't stop myself until I got upstairs. It was a combination of anger, embarrassment (since I was just walking down the street crying), and just utter stupidity. I felt like I was doing so good only to realize I was just doing the same thing I've always done: let my overthinking get in the way of bettering a connection with someone. I felt really stupid in the moment for crying about it, and I still feel really stupid for crying in hindsight, but I get it. At that point, I kind of pushed some of my overthinking to the side. I already knew his ***, but I wanted to formally ask him for it in person so he knew it was me and knew I wanted to connect with him outside of class. I ended up messaging him on *** about the Etsy list and told him it was me. He saw it about an hour later, liked all of the messages, and followed me. He never answered the question, and I honestly don't know how to feel about that (any opinions?), but at least something happened. I still really wish it didn't happen that way. I honestly feel like such a weirdo for messaging him out of the blue like that, but it's not like I had much other options. Campus is huge and we both have different majors, so there's an extremely slim chance we're going to have class together again. I honestly just didn't want to lose the one connection I've worked on this year, on top of the fact that he's a really sweet person who's also into some of the things I'm into and I just love being around him. I want to message him again, but I honestly don't think I should. I've done this a dozen times: message someone I want to talk to, have a brief conversation, never talk to the person again UNLESS I message them first. I'm sick and tired of doing that. I'm tired of giving energy to people that don't seem like they want it. It makes me feel bad. I feel like if I message him, that's just going to be the case again. On top of that, I don't want to come off as clingy or anything like that. I just want him to approach me on his own time, but I feel like that's not gonna happen. But I also don't want to force something that isn't there. Idk this whole thing is just confusing now.
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making friends
Anxiety Support / by peachytea11
Last post
 November 30th, 2025
...See more Hi! I made a post a few days ago about this guy I wanted to talk to, and I'm actually really happy to say I managed to do it! I don't know why, but he's both really nice to talk to but super difficult to talk to. He makes me really nervous. Honestly I think I might have a crush on him idk. He makes my overthinking a lot worse than it already is, but I love trying to talk to him. I want to ask him to be my friend. I talked to my best friend about it and she said I should just go for it, but I really struggle with things like that. Idk how to properly tell someone I want to be friends with them without sounding awkward and overthinking every possibility. My friend just told me to do it anyway and if he's chill he won't have a problem with it, which is good advice, but I'm genuinely terrified. We have class together. We're in the same group with each other. We have to sit within the same general vicinity as one another twice a week. Literally the entire class is group work. I'm afraid that if I say something, I'll just make things awkward between us for the rest of the semester. I've never specifically asked to be someone's friend before, but I have confessed romantic feelings a LOT. That exact scenario has happened before. I've been rejected many a time and I honestly thought I'd be used to it by now, but it really never gets easier. I feel like this situation should be different, mainly because I just want to be friends and I really don't want to cross over into romantic territory, but I'm just as scared. He is a cool person and he doesn't seem to have any problem with me, but the nagging feeling that he deep down doesn't like me at all keeps popping up. I hate it. It happens all the time, but it's worse with someone I'm interested in. My friend is right. If he's actually as chill as he seems to be, there shouldn't be a problem even if he turns me down, but I still want some feedback. How should I approach this? My game plan is to just talk to him as we're leaving class (since we're definitely going to be busy during class and he comes to class late every time) and just bring it up as straightforward as possible, but I don't know if I have the guts for that. The minute I open my mouth, my mind goes blank. I'm scared that'll happen and I'll mess up what I want to say. Any thoughts? Thank you! - peachy
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Trying
Anxiety Support / by peachytea11
Last post
 February 6th, 2023
...See more I've never really made a friend intentionally. Out of the few friends I've had/currently have, they've usually been major extroverts who decided to "adopt" me or friends of those extroverts who just ended up in my life out of convenience. I'm in college and in a different state now, and I really want to make a friend. There's a guy I have a class with two times a week who I want to be that friend. We're both from the same place, we both have similar styles, and I overall just find him to be a really cool person to work with. He just has a really nice vibe. I talk to him in very short intervals (like a minute each) during group work, but it's only ever group work related. I want to talk to him more, but it's just really hard for me to do. I'll go into a conversation thinking I can do it, but then I'll just start looking down and overthinking everything I say, which only makes me end the conversation sooner. I don't want him to think I don't like him or that I don't like people or something, but it's just so hard. Any tips? Thank you xx 😊
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New Beginnings
Anxiety Support / by peachytea11
Last post
 December 1st, 2022
...See more Hi! My name is peachytea11, but you can call me A if you want. This is the first time I've ever done anything even remotely major to help out my social anxiety, but it's gotten to the point where I can no longer handle it. I've struggled with social anxiety since late elementary school. I actually used to be a very talkative child, but I something happened in my past that I didn't think would have much of an effect on me. I was VERY wrong :D One day I might get into it if I feel like venting, but I'm in a pretty good mood right now and I'd rather focus on my current mood. My social anxiety has gotten to a point where I now physically struggle to look people in the eye during conversation and I end up on the brink of tears whenever I feel like I'm in the public spotlight. I literally had to fight off tears when I went to Texas Roadhouse on my 18th birthday and they had the whole restaurant say happy birthday to me while I sat on a saddle (if you've been to Texas Roadhouse, you know EXACTLY what I'm talking about). I mentally cannot do it anymore, so here I am. Here's some general info about me: - I'm 18 years old - I live in the US - My pronouns are she/her - I am currently attending art school but I plan on switching to a normal university - My hobbies include drawing, crochet, language learning (I'm mostly focused on Haitian Creole and French right now), playing melodica (not as often as I should), and roller skating - I'm currently in between a frog phase and a hedgehog phase - I like kpop, alternative rock, and pop punk music (listen to Set It Off, they're such a good band omg) - I'm really not good at keeping up with conversation and I have trouble responding to messages out of fear, but I'm trying to work on it If you want to talk, feel free! I might not respond immediately, but please understand that I'm just really not good at responding to new people. I'm trying though :)
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