making friends
Hi!
I made a post a few days ago about this guy I wanted to talk to, and I'm actually really happy to say I managed to do it! I don't know why, but he's both really nice to talk to but super difficult to talk to. He makes me really nervous. Honestly I think I might have a crush on him idk. He makes my overthinking a lot worse than it already is, but I love trying to talk to him.
I want to ask him to be my friend. I talked to my best friend about it and she said I should just go for it, but I really struggle with things like that. Idk how to properly tell someone I want to be friends with them without sounding awkward and overthinking every possibility. My friend just told me to do it anyway and if he's chill he won't have a problem with it, which is good advice, but I'm genuinely terrified.
We have class together. We're in the same group with each other. We have to sit within the same general vicinity as one another twice a week. Literally the entire class is group work. I'm afraid that if I say something, I'll just make things awkward between us for the rest of the semester.
I've never specifically asked to be someone's friend before, but I have confessed romantic feelings a LOT. That exact scenario has happened before. I've been rejected many a time and I honestly thought I'd be used to it by now, but it really never gets easier. I feel like this situation should be different, mainly because I just want to be friends and I really don't want to cross over into romantic territory, but I'm just as scared. He is a cool person and he doesn't seem to have any problem with me, but the nagging feeling that he deep down doesn't like me at all keeps popping up. I hate it. It happens all the time, but it's worse with someone I'm interested in.
My friend is right. If he's actually as chill as he seems to be, there shouldn't be a problem even if he turns me down, but I still want some feedback. How should I approach this? My game plan is to just talk to him as we're leaving class (since we're definitely going to be busy during class and he comes to class late every time) and just bring it up as straightforward as possible, but I don't know if I have the guts for that. The minute I open my mouth, my mind goes blank. I'm scared that'll happen and I'll mess up what I want to say. Any thoughts?
Thank you!
- peachy
@peachytea11
It’s lovely that you’re making the effort to talk to him. Approaching someone you like can be scary. Takes a lot of courage! <3 You got this!💜
I find it hard to make friends as I don't really have many.
@peachytea11It’s completely normal to feel nervous about this kind of conversation, especially given your past experiences. Your plan to talk to him as you’re leaving class sounds like a good idea—it’s a natural, low-pressure moment. To help with the nerves, you might try rehearsing what you want to say beforehand, maybe even write it down or practice in front of a mirror. Keep it simple and honest, like, “Hey, I just wanted to say I’d really like to be friends and hope that’s cool.” Remember, you don’t have to say everything perfectly—being genuine is what matters most. Would you like help crafting a few sentences you could use?
