Trying
I've never really made a friend intentionally.
Out of the few friends I've had/currently have, they've usually been major extroverts who decided to "adopt" me or friends of those extroverts who just ended up in my life out of convenience.
I'm in college and in a different state now, and I really want to make a friend. There's a guy I have a class with two times a week who I want to be that friend. We're both from the same place, we both have similar styles, and I overall just find him to be a really cool person to work with. He just has a really nice vibe.
I talk to him in very short intervals (like a minute each) during group work, but it's only ever group work related. I want to talk to him more, but it's just really hard for me to do. I'll go into a conversation thinking I can do it, but then I'll just start looking down and overthinking everything I say, which only makes me end the conversation sooner. I don't want him to think I don't like him or that I don't like people or something, but it's just so hard. Any tips?
Thank you xx 😊
@peachytea11
when you start to overthink or looking down etc what is going through your mind?
worried you do not sound the right way or are interesting?
Overthinking takes us out of the present and we tend to sound more confused or not clear if we continue on........ if you want this person to become a friend ... they will eventually see you may have struggles in conversation IMO a great ice breaker is telling them right out about your tendency to overthink or ask many questions about them .... various studies show people in general liek to talk about themselves so as you learn more about them your overthinking or worried about what to say often calms
Omg that's really good advice!!!
I have class with him tomorrow, so I'll try to talk to him a bit during group work.
Thank you so much!!
