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persistentHuman6827
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Separation and marriage is failing
Relationship Stress / by persistentHuman6827
Last post
 August 17th, 2023
...See more My spouse and I have been separated for 2 months and most conversations we have he feels attacked. So he’s always angry and feels like the entire world is against him. It could be a simple question that he takes out of contex and over thinks and just assumes I’m attacking him or making fun of him. To be quite frank im so sick of it. I’m tired of him acting like he’s a victim. When I’m trying to repair the small bit of hope I have. He yells at me on the phone or refuses to speak because he’s “embarrassed” so alot of communication is over text. I have told him many times nothing positive will come from communication over text… but he doesn’t come by to see me or the kids. He refuses couples therapy. today he finally stated he’s embarrassed to have sex. Which he then explains it means he doesn’t want to go on dates with me because he’s afraid it will end up with sex and cause disappointment. Because he feels like he isn’t capable of performing. He started testosterone shots roughly 4 months ago. We had sex 2x since the shots. He’s fully capable of having some sort of performance. our sex over the last 5 years has been mediocre but I have never once complained…. Never…. How on earth do I convince my husband to go on dates with me and to have sex with me?? Should I just move on. Part of me has absolutely no hope while part of me doesn’t want to lose the man I love and loved for over 10 years and the father to our children.. am I wrong for trying to get him to open up about sex?? Iv been begging for YEARS for a date night. I even had a service deliver dates to the door and he doesn’t want to do hem.
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When do I just give up
20 & Over / by persistentHuman6827
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 July 24th, 2023
...See more My spouse of 11 years left me a month ago. With no return date. We share children and they don’t make much of an effort to speak or see the children. It’s been only 2x. They gave me $500 to help with kids/expenses. their bills are still coming from our account (however they stopped depositing their checks) so I’m paying most of their bills. they claimed that they are trying to repair and rebuild and come back ( at some point) but post all these things online about being done and losing hope. there’s no secret that we have been struggling due to not spending any time together and fighting more often. Iv been explaining the love that I need and asking the way they want to be loved to try and make our relationship grow. Iv purchased monthly date boxes and all 7 months of them are still in the package. . They take so long to return any text and feels like I’m. Bothering them. I personally feel like I’m the only one trying and been the only one trying. Do I just file for child support and separation or hold out on the bit of hope I still have.
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When is divorce the right option?
20 & Over / by persistentHuman6827
Last post
 July 6th, 2023
...See more I’m so lonely. I feel so unwanted unappreciated. I feel like a personal maid. I swear I feel like I married a child. * we hardly speak inless we are fighting * he hardly kisses me and when he does it’s litterly like he’s pushing his face to mine without a physical kiss. * no affection * I’m ALWAYS the ONE pushing for sex I’m always the one initiating it. Which we hardly have anymore * he didn’t even tell me I looked pretty when I dressed up to go to his work function. * I feel ugly/ obese/unwanted feel like this is part of the reason I feel depressed and letting myself go. * I can’t even remove my wedding ring because I did gain about 20-30pounds. Which I hate myself for. * he refuses to eat /even try anything I cook simply hurts my feelings just try it and tell me you hate it or love it. I spent alot of time making it. * theres no spark no wow factor. * I have already told him where I stand “ I’m pretty much done inless drastic changes” * we have been together for 10 years married for 5 to be honest I knew most of these issues before we even married. I just feel like someone else could love me. Someone else will want me. but on the same note who Will anyone even want me.. a mom with a handful of kids. A mom who works overnights. A mom who is out of shape who’s super shy and socially awkward.
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