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pioneeringEyes2217
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How marriage stopped career ,self love , husband doesnt check on me.Please read this and help me out , i will hear your views
Relationship Stress / by pioneeringEyes2217
Last post
 July 1st
...See more Hi everyone , hope you are doing well. My marriage was few months back and before marriage we both took a mutual decision to quit my job and move to abroad and i resigned but now my visa got rejected. I was a working woman who was very ambitious and was creating a great career but due to marriage , i had to stop.My [http://stop.My] husband went back abroad after 2months of marriage. Now he doesn’t ask me whether i am financially ok or am i doing good , how i do my expenses. Once i gave him a clue about this but he said that i can get money from his account and pay it back, i was shocked and shattered. It was not about money, it was about whether he was checking on me but he dint. I told him that its shameful at some point to buy money from my parents.(I told him intentionally whether after that he might say he will look on it. I just wanted to hear that only , i don’t want him to look after me fully, even i expected the bare minimum but he cant).Instead he said its ok to have money from parents. Actually yea i am living with their money and they will provide whatever i want.But my husband didn’t have the courtesy to ask me whether i need something. We are in LDR now at least he could suprise me with something, order food for me, Nothing from his side, i used to put efforts on him now I stopped.What are your opinion on this? I will go abroad and start my career soon but i am scared too will i get a job there,i want to stand on my own feet and dont want to bother the man to care of me.I married for my parents sake i am no longer myself, i lost myself
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Life at27
35 & Over Community / by pioneeringEyes2217
Last post
 June 6th
...See more Hi my wedding was this year and it was an arranged marriage, on 2025 i had a relationship but that guy was so toxic, questioning what i wear , whom i look at , etc we were in a long distance. One fine day my parents brought me a alliance and i denied it but they took it so forward that they dint tell me , i told my ex about this instead of he understanding me he brought up unwanted issues like what i wear etc .My situation was so worse that my parents are too orthodox to understand if i love someone. My ex instead of calming me and give a reassurance that he will be with me for anything he just fought with me and went silent for days i was panicking and i wanted to talk to him Every time when we fight i am the one who first solve the issue mostly he is the one who fight with me . That time i dint go first so we went silent for days and he dint text me back. I was waiting for him to text. Everytime he says harsh and bad words to me i used to hear that and be like this is how relationships works and i resolve everything. That day i talked the same way like he did. Like i am going to breakup soon he said okay its fine then blocked me and went. I was heartbroken. After a month my parents went with the alliance and i also agreed since the person i loved never choosed me. Then after 3months he came back saying he wanted me back actually i was going to get engaged otherwise i would have gone back. He said he took me for granted and it was his mistake to leave me like that.I didn’t go back but now also it hurts me I am married to another person he is peaceful and everything but i doesn’t feel that love or romance with this guy. Also my marriage was this year . We both decided to leave my job and will go with him abroad. I am not fully happy going abroad since leaving everyone here and going with him. Its been around 4months i left job and my husband went back abroad. Both my house and Inlaws are nearby . During this time he didnt ask me whether i was financially doing good or not , he doesn’t check on that things . I am now living with my parents money. The decision to leave the job was mutual but now i am struggling financially. This doesn’t mean he have to provide me everything i just expected for his words and reassurance that i need anything. I dont know how my life is going my now i am bored with my marriage life. I wished i would have lived single. My life lessons: 1)Never listen to everything your parents say at some point of life you can decide on your own that doesn’t need their permission. Dont be like a bird on a cage for several years and when the cage is open the bird doesn’t want to fly .understand yourself and your interests and leave. 2)Learn to say no and stop empathising on every people and stop thinking that everyone is good . Be selfish at some point and learn to be yourself.Do everything you love like there’s no tomorrow.
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Life,love, happiness ,money,marriage
Relationship Stress / by pioneeringEyes2217
Last post
 June 6th
...See more Hi my wedding was this year and it was an arranged marriage, on 2025 i had a relationship but that guy was so toxic, questioning what i wear , whom i look at , etc we were in a long distance. One fine day my parents brought me a alliance and i denied it but they took it so forward that they dint tell me , i told my ex about this instead of he understanding me he brought up unwanted issues like what i wear etc .My situation was so worse that my parents are too orthodox to understand if i love someone. My ex instead of calming me and give a reassurance that he will be with me for anything he just fought with me and went silent for days i was panicking and i wanted to talk to him Every time when we fight i am the one who first solve the issue mostly he is the one who fight with me . That time i dint go first so we went silent for days and he dint text me back. I was waiting for him to text. Everytime he says harsh and bad words to me i used to hear that and be like this is how relationships works and i resolve everything. That day i talked the same way like he did. Like i am going to breakup soon he said okay its fine then blocked me and went. I was heartbroken. After a month my parents went with the alliance and i also agreed since the person i loved never choosed me. Then after 3months he came back saying he wanted me back actually i was going to get engaged otherwise i would have gone back. He said he took me for granted and it was his mistake to leave me like that.I didn’t go back but now also it hurts me I am married to another person he is peaceful and everything but i doesn’t feel that love or romance with this guy. Also my marriage was this year . We both decided to leave my job and will go with him abroad. I am not fully happy going abroad since leaving everyone here and going with him. Its been around 4months i left job and my husband went back abroad. Both my house and Inlaws are nearby . During this time he didnt ask me whether i was financially doing good or not , he doesn’t check on that things . I am now living with my parents money. The decision to leave the job was mutual but now i am struggling financially. This doesn’t mean he have to provide me everything i just expected for his words and reassurance that i need anything. I dont know how my life is going my now i am bored with my marriage life. I wished i would have lived single. My life lessons: 1)Never listen to everything your parents say at some point of life you can decide on your own that doesn’t need their permission. Dont be like a bird on a cage for several years and when the cage is open the bird doesn’t want to fly .understand yourself and your interests and leave. 2)Learn to say no and stop empathising on every people and stop thinking that everyone is good . Be selfish at some point and learn to be yourself.Do [http://yourself.do/] everything you love like there’s no tomorrow.
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Money and marriage
Relationship Stress / by pioneeringEyes2217
Last post
 June 7th
...See more Hi my wedding was this year and it was an arranged marriage, on 2025 i had a relationship but that guy was so toxic, questioning what i wear , whom i look at , etc we were in a long distance. One fine day my parents brought me a alliance and i denied it but they took it so forward that they dint tell me , i told my ex about this instead of he understanding me he brought up unwanted issues like what i wear etc .My situation was so worse that my parents are too orthodox to understand if i love someone. My ex instead of calming me and give a reassurance that he will be with me for anything he just fought with me and went silent for days i was panicking and i wanted to talk to him Every time when we fight i am the one who first solve the issue mostly he is the one who fight with me . That time i dint go first so we went silent for days and he dint text me back. I was waiting for him to text. Everytime he says harsh and bad words to me i used to hear that and be like this is how relationships works and i resolve everything. That day i talked the same way like he did. Like i am going to breakup soon he said okay its fine then blocked me and went. I was heartbroken. After a month my parents went with the alliance and i also agreed since the person i loved never choosed me. Then after 3months he came back saying he wanted me back actually i was going to get engaged otherwise i would have gone back. He said he took me for granted and it was his mistake to leave me like that.I didn’t go back but now also it hurts me I am married to another person he is peaceful and everything but i doesn’t feel that love or romance with this guy. Also my marriage was this year . We both decided to leave my job and will go with him abroad. I am not fully happy going abroad since leaving everyone here and going with him. Its been around 4months i left job and my husband went back abroad. Both my house and Inlaws are nearby . During this time he didnt ask me whether i was financially doing good or not , he doesn’t check on that things . I am now living with my parents money. The decision to leave the job was mutual but now i am struggling financially. This doesn’t mean he have to provide me everything i just expected for his words and reassurance that i need anything. I dont know how my life is going my now i am bored with my marriage life. I wished i would have lived single. My life lessons: 1)Never listen to everything your parents say at some point of life you can decide on your own that doesn’t need their permission. Dont be like a bird on a cage for several years and when the cage is open the bird doesn’t want to fly .understand yourself and your interests and leave. 2)Learn to say no and stop empathising on every people and stop thinking that everyone is good . Be selfish at some point and learn to be yourself.Do [http://yourself.Do] everything you love like there’s no tomorrow.
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Dressing issue in relationship
Relationship Stress / by pioneeringEyes2217
Last post
 December 10th, 2024
...See more Hi im in a relationship for the past 5months , i am very happy with him but now he doesn’t want me to wear tight jeans, he says it makes him uncomfortable, i dint change my dressing style i was like this only before, we are open with things. But this makes me sad , i actually dress up for myself but he says he doesn’t want to see any men staring at me, so thats why he asked to me to do this. I said him im comfortable with my dressing and he asked me why am i not comfortable with loose jeans etc that means im here to show off , what should i do? We were on the edge of breakup but now he said he is ready to change his perspective,I want him to understand me and i should be able to wear whatever i want . What i can do for this? Someone please help me.
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Dress issues in relationship
Relationship Stress / by pioneeringEyes2217
Last post
 December 2nd, 2024
...See more My boyfriend doesn’t like me wearing tight dress or sleeveless dress , he said i should avoid these dresses . Should i listen to him or is there any way that i change the way he thinks?
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