Life at27

Hi my wedding was this year and it was an arranged marriage, on 2025 i had a relationship but that guy was so toxic, questioning what i wear , whom i look at , etc we were in a long distance. One fine day my parents brought me a alliance and i denied it but they took it so forward that they dint tell me , i told my ex about this instead of he understanding me he brought up unwanted issues like what i wear etc .My situation was so worse that my parents are too orthodox to understand if i love someone. My ex instead of calming me and give a reassurance that he will be with me for anything he just fought with me and went silent for days i was panicking and i wanted to talk to him

Every time when we fight i am the one who first solve the issue mostly he is the one who fight with me . That time i dint go first so we went silent for days and he dint text me back.

I was waiting for him to text. Everytime he says harsh and bad words to me i used to hear that and be like this is how relationships works and i resolve everything. That day i talked the same way like he did. Like i am going to breakup soon he said okay its fine then blocked me and went. I was heartbroken.

After a month my parents went with the alliance and i also agreed since the person i loved never choosed me.

Then after 3months he came back saying he wanted me back actually i was going to get engaged otherwise i would have gone back.

He said he took me for granted and it was his mistake to leave me like that.I didn’t go back but now also it hurts me

I am married to another person he is peaceful and everything but i doesn’t feel that love or romance with this guy.

Also my marriage was this year . We both decided to leave my job and will go with him abroad. I am not fully happy going abroad since leaving everyone here and going with him.

Its been around 4months i left job and my husband went back abroad. Both my house and Inlaws are nearby . During this time he didnt ask me whether i was financially doing good or not , he doesn’t check on that things . I am now living with my parents money. The decision to leave the job was mutual but now i am struggling financially. This doesn’t mean he have to provide me everything i just expected for his words and reassurance that i need anything. I dont know how my life is going my now i am bored with my marriage life. I wished i would have lived single.

My life lessons:

1)Never listen to everything your parents say at some point of life you can decide on your own that doesn’t need their permission. Dont be like a bird on a cage for several years and when the cage is open the bird doesn’t want to fly .understand yourself and your interests and leave.

2)Learn to say no and stop empathising on every people and stop thinking that everyone is good . Be selfish at some point and learn to be yourself.Do everything you love like there’s no tomorrow.