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politeFig8700
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Situation weighing on my mind, anxiety makes it hard to let go of
Anxiety Support / by politeFig8700
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 October 29th, 2021
...See more Hi everyone, so I basically just need some help or reassurance or just to get this situation out of my brain. I’ve been feeling really off this whole week since hanging out with my boyfriend on Tuesday. We were hanging out and having some ~intimate~ time, all well and good, but then after wards when we were lying together he all of a sudden said “ I think we should have sex more, I think it too long in between times and I feel like I need to have sec more than that”. I truly believe that the sentiment behind this was totally positive, but the way he phrased it was really jarring for me and actually really hurt my feelings and made me feel like he was annoyed with me. As the week goes on I’ve realized that I think this is something I want to bring up, and just mention how in the future if he wants to bring something like that up that I would appreciate if it were phrased a little differently, cause the way it was said didn’t land great for me. I was going to do this on Saturday when our next plan to hang out is, but when something is weighing on my mind it is so hard for me to sit with those feelings for any length of time. I feel like this is something that would be much better brought up in person, but I am fighting the urge so hard right now not to text him about it this minute, because whenever something is making me anxious or upset I want to have it dealt with instantly. Please I would love some advice for how to soothe the need to have rwsolution right this second, how can I be calm waiting for the right time to bring this up when I next see him in person. (also any advice for communicating when something didn’t land right with a partner, I would appreciate any words of wisdom there as well)
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