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quietCoconut2731
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Relationship Stress / by quietCoconut2731
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 October 29th, 2022
...See more hey guys! so I’ve been with the same guy going on 2 years, we’ve both been through a divorce. I have 3 kiddos from my previous marriage, they are 9,7,6. The kids love him and he’s great with them. we have lived together for 1.5 of this relationship.. everything seemed great until we moved in together… and I feel like though they are his set boundaries they are completely unrealistic, I feel that he has major control issues. Someone please help me out and give me an opinion… I feel everything I do he creates an argument out of it. he doesn’t want me to go into a store alone.. because he’s afraid I’ll look at someone. I work in a private environment with the elderly, he’s afraid something’s going on there. He’s made me quit multiple jobs because he doesn’t like them and he’s paranoid. I am applying for new jobs to have a greater income and he keeps saying you can’t work there you can’t work there you’ll cheat or you’ll be someone’s friend. You will get close to someone. There’s been no history of ANY CHEATING! None! I am not allowed to make any eye contact with any males. He says if I make eye contact with any males he will leave me. I can’t say thank you or have a nice day at fast food or anything. Can’t ever have alone time with kids. Can’t have my own ***. Nothing. Can’t go eat with my parents. I’ve tried talking to him MANY times. Advice???
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Relationship Stress / by quietCoconut2731
Last post
 June 18th, 2022
...See more So I've been in a year long relationship, everything started out okay, we are having issues with control jealousy and trust. In the very beginning I deleted a text from an ex, I didn't respond just deleted it, this was like 2 weeks in and then I did look up an ex on *** like 2 months in.. however now we have a joint *** that up until yesterday was only on his phone. I'm absolutely in love with this man, he's great on all other fronts, but his jealousy and control means I can't have any other conversations with men unless it's strictly about work, I can't look in any males direction or I'm staring at them. Every conversation I have he wants to know every word. He panics when I wear make up or shirts that aren't long enough to cover my butt, everywhere I go almost he wants to know if anyone hit on me, even if it's breakfast with my step mom or in the gas station. . But the good a whole lot of the times out weighs the bad. He's constantly thinking I want someone else which I don't. Earlier this week I got a new supervisor, which has made for a really bad week, up until Monday I hadn't ever spoke to the guy etc, but even before he became my supervisor, my bf had an issue with him saying the guy wanted to have sex with me. I sent the guy a text because I cut myself needing a band aid, I put an lol and he put an emoji, my bf said that was flirting we have a difference in opinion which is fine, but he said that was equal to me sleeping with him. (Everyone there communicates with their supervisor via text) Well it all escalated this week, which led to me deleting texts to my mom where I was venting. He thought she was sending photos of men. Which she wasn't. She sent the messages back and it proved to be just that venting. My parents are saying seek counseling or leave. What is your views on the situation? Is there a control and jealousy issue? How do we fix it? How do I be more patient? What can we both do to better the situation? Is it worth saving? We both want to be here but we need to find a solution to all of the situations.
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