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About my twin sister (TW)

Addiction Support / by raspberryGrapefruit9210

Tuesday

...See more Just kind of need someone that can listen but basically I don't know what to do about my living situation where I (17) and my twin sister, who smokes weed all day, doomscrolls, SH, and yells and argues with my mom. Mind you its only us three. I go to school, she doesnt. They kicked her out for her bad grades and she dropped online school and does nothing all day except mindlessly watch tv. Not too long ago she got home from the mental hospital for a week she stayed and yet she still hasn't changed one bit. i'm worried about her and I have tried multiple times to reach out to her but she always rejects. It hurts bc I wish we were closer and that she wasn't doing all of this. I know it deeply hurts my mom too. My twin also has ADHD and I know she struggles with other mental health disorders but what can I do to help her. I feel like I can't even be close to her. She is super toxic and lost all of her friends no surprise and constantly complains and denies everything. And the police has come to our house multiple times but they dont do ***. I'm scared she wont even do anything good in her life and she says she just wants to sell her body as if she can make a living like that. Which she has done before. And she's a MINOR ffs. What can I do about this pls help? I know someone can't change if they don't want too but I have tried on multiple ocassions being nice to her or saying hi. She never lets me in her room tho or wants to talk. So its kind of like we're strangers that live in the same house. Last night I was woke up by the sound of her using again. And my older sister isn't much in the picture because she moved out and is not in contact with my twin anymore after they had a big fight. :( any suggestions or help with this please.

Friends?

Friendship Support / by raspberryGrapefruit9210

January 27th

FOMO

Friendship Support / by raspberryGrapefruit9210

January 21st

...See more So idk if anyone has covered this topic on here, but just right now I'm going through a really bad case of FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) and it's all because I worry about not being invited to a party, or gathering from my friends. And I want to try and host one but my mom won't let me :/ And yes.. I know.. social media is worse when your comparing yourself to your best friend with a huge friend group and close boyfriend. Which I lowkey always feel like I'm third wheeling. But like it makes sense, she totally deserves that. I'm not mad. Just kind of feel like I should belong in a group too. So I started sitting with this other girl at lunch to get to know her which has helped :) and I know some of her mutual friends too! So I think I can adjust myself to her friend group instead. It just kind of hurts to hear people talking about their big plans for upcoming holidays and I just have to be like oh, so cool! Because it is.. but like ugh. :/ And I love my best friend, but I've only been her friend for so long and havent had the chance to meet other people. So I think it's time I started doing that. And it's like what about school events too? Like the dance, I want to have someone to go with. I just wish I had a cool big group of friends that kids at my school have. And it kind of sucks being the "floater friend." Any advice or help on how to overcome this?

Situationship??

LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by raspberryGrapefruit9210

January 14th

...See more So I'm not too familiar with this app and new, but I've been having this issue lately with on of my friends, lets call her Ava, who I started to like for a few months now but she's not exactly the attractive type. And by that I mean she has alot of red flags. And she was in a toxic relationship with her boyfriend until they broke up and got back together, which was what I heard from her last before I stopped being around her. And idk if I should really consider her as even my friend anymore if I can't really see being in a relationship with her because she's so emotionally unstable. I thought she was cool in like an edgy mysterious way but now I see that she is kind of a social reject. Not to be mean or anything but her personality isn't the best. Maybe I just liked her style, but now that I see her everyday in class I just try my best to not look at her or pay her any attention. Was this the right choice or not?? Because now, I decided to hang more around these 2 other people, Jayce and Melanie, who were also close to Avery before they stopped being friends with her too. And Melanie is super nice to me but Jayce is more quiet. I feel better with them anyways. When I was with Ava and this other girl, Ray, who I sat with too, they were always on their phones or didn't talk. And always never responded or flaked out on plans when I tried to invite them somewhere twice. So whatever. Ray can stay with Ava, but I'm not going too. What do you guys think cuz I didn't want to stay with Ava or else my feelings for her wouldn't go away. Does anyone think that Jayce and Melanie like me now that they see I'm kind of wanting to be their friends instead??

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