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Can't cope with husbands negativity anymore
Relationship Stress / by redSailboat8938
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 December 11th, 2016
...See more Hi all, very new here and just found this today! Was actually looking for an online therapist but anyways here I go :) I've been with my husband for almost 10 years, married for 4. We have 2 children. To cut a long story short, we are 2 completely different people. I'm more of a hippy zen mom, positive parenting, don't tend to dwell or think much about negative things that come across my way. My husband is very unhappy with his life in general and shows it all the time. I've tried to help, but my way of doing things are just "emotionless" apparently (because I don't rant all day). He's always complaining about the people at his work, the topics they talk about (they're boring etc). He complains that there's no kind of entertainment where we live. He's always nagging at me or the kids. We, and I mean everyone around him, simply don't live up to his high standards. Now normally I could look past that, it's his way of figuring out his life and I support him, and we do talk about this a lot. However, with my kids growing older now, it's starting to rub off on them. All this negative talk, these comments, they can get mean and I can't stand them! I can't even have a decent conversation with him anymore without some comment. He says that it's just the way he is, that he won't change his ways and we shouldn't be so sensitive to what he says (ie, don't take anything personal). I'm growing tired of even speaking to him, knowing what's going to come out of his mouth is negative. How many more times am I going to discuss this with him? If we didn't have children, I'd probably end the relationship at this point. But I don't want to be that person who splits up the family. The kids adore him, he is a fun dad, he helps a lot around the house and he treats me well. I know his nagging and commenting are all just a cry for help, and he's trying his best, but I am at the end of my patience I think. Looking forward to any thoughts you might have.
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