Skip to main content Skip to bottom nav
reservedLand3354
1,267 M Little Steps 4
PathStep 25 Compassion hearts16 Forum posts4 Forum upvotes0 Current upvotes0 Age GroupAdult Last activeNovember, 2015 Member sinceMay 23, 2015
Bio
Recent forum posts
reservedLand3354 profile picture
I want to get back with my ex, but he is over it
Relationship Stress / by reservedLand3354
Last post
 December 30th, 2017
...See more Okay well my and my now ex boyfriend had been dating for a little over a year. From the beginning, we kind of fought a lot. We would fight over stupid little jealousy things. I am a very insecure person, so I get jealous when I don't mean to. I get super insecure when other girls are around because he is a naturally flirty person. Although he doesnt treat guys and girls differently, he just likes to joke around a lot. So I always start fights about it, but then I realize I am being kind of crazy and he isn't actually flirting with these people. He's never cheated on me. Since I always start so many fights though, he does things such as deleting all of his texts with other girls. He says he does it so I dont get mad over a pointless conversation, but then it only makes me worry more. I have asked him to stop and he says he will, but never does. I even said that I cannot get mad about it since he would actually be doing what I asked. Anyways, the other night we went out to a bar with some friends. We ended up getting in some stupid little fight, and just kind of not talking the rest of the night. I drank too much so I told him I was going to walk home. On my way out, the bartender (one of his friends) told me not to leave because I was too drunk to go by myself. So I ended up sitting at the bar with one of his old friends from high school ( a girl), and we just talked and danced with each other. Well he got really mad when he found out I didn't actually go home because he was sitting at a table by himself drinking, while I was talking at the bar. The next morning he said he couldn't do it anymore. The fighting was too much for him and that I really disrespected him at the bar. So he said we were officially breaking up. We had taken a break for like two days the week before, but then got in a stupid fight when we went out to that bar. I really don't want things to be over, but he says he does. I have tried pouring my heart out to him, and he just says he doesn't think things will ever change. I don't think any fight with him is worth breaking up over. I also think that it is something that can change. I need to find a way to get over my insecurities, but I think that can be changed. He also has said that he needs to stop making the fights a bigger deal than they are. Like if I ask who some girl is, he shouldn't get really mad at me and it should just be a simple conversation. I just think things can be different. Any advice? 
Search more from @reservedLand3354
Community updates
Talk to an expert therapist
Sharing your depressive thoughts and feelings may be scary and overwhelming, so...
Talk to Johanna Now
Badges & Awards
11 total badges
Hand Shake Linked Quintet Chief Chat Honest Voice Strong Start Reconnect First Post Reaching out First Compassion Strong Bond I
Report an issue