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resourcefulTalker1630
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Having a bad day
Relationship Stress / by resourcefulTalker1630
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 April 25th, 2024
...See more I dont really know what to type but i know i need to write it down somehow, somewhere my husband cant find it.  I posted before about my realising my husband was a narcissist, desperate to leave him but i am stuck here. Its getting worse. He is so angry all the time, he hates me. He accuses me of being unstable. Trys to make me out to be crazy. I do everything he asks, everytime. I never say to intimacy with him, the other day was the one time i do, he absolutely flips out. Like scary angry, ive never seen him so angry, i actually thought he might come at me. He hasnt spoken to me for 3 days now. Complete silence. Which is a usual tactic for him, he knows how much i hate when he does that. Im on eggshells all the time, i feel anxious and sick and i just dont know what to do. Tomorrow he will probably talk to me again and just pretend nothing happened, and im supposed to just be normal again with no resolving the issue,no communication about it, no nothing. I dont know how much longer i can just pretend everything is ok.  I just needed to vent. To get it out. To have it somewhere where i know its real and he cant make me believe it didnt happen or downplay it to make me seem like im overreacting and crazy. Because sometimes i do actually believe him and i hate myself for it. 
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How to find a way to cope with a narcissistic husband
Relationship Stress / by resourcefulTalker1630
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 March 6th, 2024
...See more Not sure what to write here so ill just see what comes to mind.. slowly over the past few months ive realised my husband is a narcissist, borderline abusive and sometimes just generally not a good guy. He can be amazing at times but more often than not he's *** to live with. We have 4 kids all under 8. I am stuck in this marriage until our kids grow up, but now that i see what hes been doing to me all these years i just feel overwhelmed, anxious and mostly sad. I cant leave him but im not happy. I do everything for him, our kids, the house etc. But it feels like I cant do anything right for him and sometimes it honestly feels like he hates me. He has to control everything, gets mad at me for the smallest things, makes me feel like its all in my head, hes even started telling my family that i cant cope making me seem unfit. Everyone loves him, hes perfect to them,  always charming, helpful and an all round good guy but not with me. I feel like im going crazy sometimes with his mood swings from charming to horrible. Always walking on eggshells to keep him happy. I wanted to do couples therapy but he wouldn't do it, i asked if i could do therapy on my own and he refused. I dont know what im looking for, maybe just advice on how to cope with the next 18 years im going to stuck with him. Thanks for reading if anyone does. 
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