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...See more What I want to know is: Am I somehow being delusional in thinking that I could ever be content and settle and find any sort of happiness in this relationship? Maybe I just need someone else’s perspective in order to accept the reality of things. I listed some bullet points as to what bothers me in the relationship I’m terrified that he is all I will ever have and I shouldn’t let that go because I will never find another person. I’ve been married since April 2016. * Says he never loved me for the first 3 years of marriage * Insists that he is in love with me at least for the past year * Has left me 3 times and comes back saying the problem wasn’t actually me, but him * Intimacy is a constant struggle as he has little to no sex drive and says he would be 100% okay with no intimacy ever again (we explored him being asexual, etc and he does not identify) * He acts very clinical and non-chalant when talking about our marriage ending * He continually blames me for things that frustrates him and takes those frustrations out on me * He says he has no empathy towards anyone, but claims he cares for me * It always feels like he has one foot out the door * He is unable to communicate * He is extremely avoidant and detaches from reality a lot * He refuses to acknowledge my mental illnesses and offer support and understanding, but we love both of our lives oriented around his * He continually says he isn’t a good partner and that I could do better As for me, I’m a very loving and physical person. I love physical touch (not always sexual) and affection from my partner. Open communication is extremely important to me. Trust is also vital, and I feel like our relationship has none. I feel so lost and crushed as I have to consider the possibility of leaving the only person I’ve ever wanted a future with. My only husband and the only one I’ve been sincerely in love with. Can I please have thoughts and opinions?

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