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Shattered and Stuck (TW: sex addiction)
Relationship Stress / by rp89
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 April 19th
...See more Almost two years ago, I discovered my husband’s 20+ year sex/escort addiction and my world totally shattered. He’s working on recovery, and I’m trying to heal and find self-worth. I love him and do not want to give up on us but don’t know if our marriage is sustainable/if I am settling due to hope for change or fear of leaving. Reaching out to not isolate and convince myself that this is actually real.
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Whole world shattered
35 & Over Community / by rp89
Last post
 February 20th
...See more Hello, I am newly active on here. I am 36 and my whole world was shattered when I traumatically learned of my husbands sex/escort addition almost 2 years ago. He has been actively working on recovery in several ways, and so have I. I have been isolating because this is not something I want to share with friends or family.  I have seen progress and still love him, but am not sure the marriage is sustainable. The last thing I want to do is give up on him or us, but I am starting to understand that I deserve to be happy, not just surviving. Now that the shock and pain has worn off, I am at the stage where I am trying to find self-worth and make rational decisions on next steps. I have just been stuck in this in-between phase and do not know what to do, so I do nothing but wait and see.
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