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silverdrop
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Hard to make friendships as a young adult
Relationship Stress / by silverdrop
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 July 7th, 2022
...See more Hello I just recently graduated college and I’ve realized recently that a lot of the friends I’ve made through my college experience aren’t really there for me when I need them. I was greatful for joining a dance team my freshman year and becoming nominated as one of the three captains for my junior year. I’ve met a lot of people through that group and I always thought they were my closest friends. However, this past year I feel that my friends and I have become distanced. This is mostly due to the fact that I had to commute to school and it is a 2-hour commute from my home. However, I didn’t mind the drive and would always drive the distance if my friends wanted to hang since all of them live around the campus. But I tried to reach out and engage with them in groupchats and they never reply. I also tried to make plans with my friend group to hangout but no one replies or they just flake on me. I’ve also been feeling weird about why my friend group dote on each other with hugs but when it came to me their tones would change and treat me slightly different. I came to this realization when I threw my own birthday party on campus even though it was a long drive for me but my friends lived in that area. Only 2 people arrived on time and everyone arrived in groups 2-3 hours later. It felt embarrassing because I invited my sibling and cousin which they later told me that they didn’t like my friend group for how rude most of them were for arriving almost 2-3 hours late and then only staying for 20 mins. I’m just so confused because I do see them as my close friends and they do invite me to stuff but I just don’t really feel valued as a person when I’m around them anymore. A lot of the times perhaps school or work can come in the way of hanging out and that’s completely understandable but I basically only see them now twice a year. And it irks me a little because I see those same friends hanging out with each other on social media all the time. So I don’t know, I’ve kind of isolated myself from everyone and deleted all my social medias because I felt sad and envious that all my friends are hanging out and making time for each other. I’m heading off to grad school this fall abroad for a year so hopefully I maybe can make a friend there but I just wish I had at least one really really close best friend that would be there for me and vice versa.
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