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sincereClementine9916
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ISTJ | 20 years old, sophomore in college. Generally a positive, dedicated person. Recently stuck in a ditch; losing myself back to a negative, pessimistic person. Could use a lot of advice.

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Is this cheating? What should I do?
Relationship Stress / by sincereClementine9916
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 July 27th, 2017
...See more This is a very complicated situation, and I urge you to try to be as understanding as possible. I have a girlfriend who I've been with for about half a year now which isn't long but we did experience a lot together due to her depression and anxiety. 3 months into our relationship she attempted suicide. After hospital treatment, medication, etc. she was seeing improvement. Despite everything, our relationship was still good. Her biggest issue that heavily influences what happens is a lack of self worth; she believes she's a burden to everyone and we all would be better of if she died. She recently admitted something she did 3 months ago. When she was at her breaking point, she met up with a much older man to receive payment for meeting up with her. She said she felt like a financial burden to her parents at the time and wanted to make money. She claims she thought the man only wanted company (I struggle here the most because it's obvious hookups are hookups.) He took her to his apartment and they watched TV until he began to initiate intimate acts such as kissing and groping which caught her off guard. However, she never called it off because she felt "stuck." He didn't rape her but she never stopped him completely. She didn't want to "upset" him because he paid. As far as I know, there was no intercourse but she gave him a handjob. She says she wished he had killed her. Now our relationship is in danger because I'm very angry with this whole situation, and she is struggling a lot with guilt. I don't know what to do. I still love her immensely and I do not want to break up. But i'm struggling with how to cope because I wake up/go to sleep everyday with that encounter on my mind. I can't believe I was oblivious to it for months. I really don't know what to do. Is it cheating? How can I cope? What would you do?
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