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is there hope
Relationship Stress / by sincereComputer45
Last post
 April 25th, 2023
...See more Bf of 3 years lost feelings for me because of my control issues. I didnt know i ws controlling, he jst randomly told mw one day he couksnt keep it in anymore and tried breakin up. I really wanted to improve so i asked him to give us a chance . Im working on myself now and we want to try to work out. 2 months have passed and his feelings havent changed, he just has more hope for us now as opposed to in feb/march since he isnt worried about issues anymore. Are we on the right track? is it too late?
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Is it over or is there hope
Relationship Stress / by sincereComputer45
Last post
 April 26th, 2023
...See more Ive been with my bf for 3 years. Ive displayed severe insecurity and controlling issues which I didnt realize since my bf didnt really point it out as he wanted to ignore the isssue. However, in feb he couldnt ignore it anymore and tried breaking up giving the reason. Since I realized i was toxic I genuinely wanted to change and promised him I would if he gave us a chance. This all has also made him lose most romantic feelings. Thankfully, Im doing much better now. My bf wants us to work out and we're doing our best now. I just wanna know how concerning or slow is our progress? Its been 2 months of little to no insecurity issues but his feelings havent changed. He does however now have more hope for us since issues seem to be gone and thinks there might be room for feelings to grow again. Are we on the right track? do we need time or is our relationship done for? TL;DR : Bf of 3 years lost feelings because of my control issues. Im working on myself now and we want to try to work out. 2 months have passed and his feelings havent changed, he just has more hope now since he isnt worried about issues anymore. Are we on the right track?
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Is it too late to fix my relationship
Relationship Stress / by sincereComputer45
Last post
 May 23rd, 2023
...See more Ive been with my bf for 3 years. Due to childhood trauma Ive unknowingly displayed severe insecurity and controlling issues. My bf never communicated this with me and so i never really realized it. However, in feb he couldnt ignore the issues anymore and tried breaking up finally givinv me the reason. Since I realized i was toxic I genuinely wanted to change and promised him I would if he gave us a chance. He agreed but This all has also made him lose most romantic feelings. Thankfully, Im doing much better now. My bf wants us to work out and we're doing our best now. I just wanna know how concerning or slow is our progress? Its been 2 months , ive started therapy and have had little to no insecurity issues but his feelings havent changed. Hes accepted the possibility of us not working out if it comes to that but i havent at all . He does however now have more hope for us since issues seem to be gone and thinks there might be room for feelings to grow again but Are we on the right track? do we need time or is our relationship done for?
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is there hope
Relationship Stress / by sincereComputer45
Last post
 March 8th, 2023
...See more basically ive been with him for 3 years. we knew we wanted to marry each other within the 1st yr of dating. everything seemed perfect but this yr things have become concerning.around start of feb he almost broke up with me but i convincsd him to think abt it for a dsy n decide. the reason of breakup was surprising for me basically i never realized but ive been v controlling like being uncomfortable with his closeness with his female friends, insecurity that he likes his friends more than me, getting annoyed abt him being late etc. but he always encouraged me to speak my mind n not hold back when im uncomfortable so i did. moreover im introverted n hes social so he does his extroverted energetic things wirh friends. even when i tell him i can still try he wont let me. he deciddd to stay but said that hes not sure at all abt oyr futire but wants to stay with me cuz he still loves me n might regret it. ive started therapy and we ve been doing better. i asked him what he thought abt our fututr n he said theres 20% chamce now whereas at start of feb there was nond so some improvement . we also havs tp do ldr after july so how bad do u think things are rn honestly its confusing bcz a week beforr he tried breaking up , he told me hes 99% sure of uz and suddenly after during the breakup he jumped to 0. for context he didnt wanna be intimate with me bcz he said it didnt feel right bcz of our proboens and i ended up crying for 2 hours (bcz i was guilty i ruined my relationship) and then he wanfed to breakup. No one goes from 100 to 0 over this imo. i feel like if i continue like im rn he might jump from 20 to 80 before we start ldr but what do u think
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