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I can’t seem to shake someone
Relationship Stress / by sociableJar2051
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 June 18th, 2021
...See more I have been in a beautiful relationship with my boyfriend for over 4 years now- we started dating at the end of highschool and moved to a new city together to do post-secondary. However, the whole time, despite how much I absolutely love my boyfriend, my mind keeps wondering about a guy who I used to talk to when I was like 16. It’s extremely frustrating but I can’t help but wonder about him because I’ve literally never dated anyone else and I feels like I’m kind of strapped in now because it’s been so long. I feel so bad even typing this, but does this mean I still have feelings for him? I just don’t understand because I have everything I could ever want so I don’t know why I wander to thinking about an ex (that I never ever dated!). He has tried to refollow me on Instagram a few times over the years, but my boyfriend is an extremely jealous person so I’ve declined every time- however I feel like being able to “see” him may help lessen me potentially over-fantasizing/over-playing his good qualities, if that makes sense? I’m just not really sure what to do because I don’t want to hurt my boyfriend and I also don’t even know why I still think of this other guy every once and a while- ahhhhhh. And I have tried to forget about them but for some reason he keeps coming back :( I’ve wondered if it was from a lack of closure but I have no idea. Sigh. Sorry rant over!
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Just need to rant
Relationship Stress / by sociableJar2051
Last post
 June 27th, 2020
...See more My current boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years and have practically lived together for most of that time. We started dating at the end of highschool and moved to the same city for college/uni so we moved in together. Long story short I love him very much and I know he feels the same but lately I haven't been able to stop thinking about how my life would be different if we had time apart. He's the only person I've really dated and I never have went out and actually partied or anything (not that this is my personality type by any means but it would be nice to be completely carefree). To make it worse, I can't stop thinking about a person I used to talk to. And I don't know if this is because I'm fantasizing being flirty and free with others or if I actually still might like them even though it was so long ago. We just started dating so young but it's so hard because he's my best friend and I do truly love him I'm just SO confused. I'm scared if I decided to move out and take a break he wouldn't take me back or trust me again and I really would like to have a future with him- I just can't stop these thoughts as much as I try :( has anyone else felt this? I feel like complete trash and I just have to bottle it up :(
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