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I'm just trying to be a better person for myself, and my family.

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Looking for ways to make friends while having social anxiety.
Friendship Support / by spudsmcguffi1234
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 July 16th, 2025
...See more Hello, I am new to this app because I realized that I'm almost 30 and the only friends I have are my spouse's or their wives. I'm not good at making friends. I try, I really do. The friends I've had don't want the same things out of the friendship that I do. I want to be able to connect with someone and us be able to share what we need to and both receive the support we need. My friendships have always been one sided, where I've given the support and advice and had to take steps back to reassess the relationship. Which usually results in me growing distant because I feel used when it's not reciprocated. I've recently made growth, where I now ask the friend if I'm doing anything wrong in their eyes that makes them not feel connected or anything else that might hinder the friendship. I enjoy my spouse's friends (friends and their wives), I really do. But I cannot talk to them about my spouse without feeling like they are going to tell their spouse and then it gets back to mine. My spouse and I have an open and honest communication, we tell each other everything that we need to and make sure that it's done in a way to not make each other defensive. But sometimes I just need to vent that my spouse said or did something dumb and small (not things that I want him to change, just the little things that comes with being in a relationship with someone). We (my spouse and I) are always the ones people come to for advice because we have worked really hard to make our relationship work and have taken our relationship from hardly any communication to the open and honest policy that we have. I guess I'm just looking for ways to find someone who wants the kind of friendship that I do. I have pretty bad social anxiety when it comes to conversations in person, and that's something I'm working on, but I know that going out in public to talk to people is how you make friends.
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