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tinadec
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Guys never choose me
Relationship Stress / by tinadec
Last post
 March 20th, 2020
...See more So I need advice more than anything. I just found out the guy Ive been seeing the last 4-5 months has been on tinder and talking to other girls on Instagram. We havent talked about exclusivity, but the past four months had me feeling like we were building something. Then, my roommate found him on tinder and that was the last straw. I blocked him on Instagram deleted his number, and FB messenger. I know that might seem harsh, but he was definitely treating me as a girlfriend so I was thinking that maybe it was naturally growing somewhere more serious and I was going to bring up about DTR, but now I know with evidence that his head wasnt there at all. I feel like guys never choose me. I care so much about guys I date and I know one of my issues is definitely communicating my feelings. Ive just been in rushed relationships that blew out quickly when we did talk about bf/gf within the first few weeks of dating. I was hoping this time since I waited I could grow genuine feelings and be sure of myself, but now Im confused. I feel like dating has me growing more untrustworthy and cautious of guys in the relationship aspect. I dont want to be that girl that is very hard to open up when a genuine guy wants to be with me, but I feel like being skeptical and following my intuition has been the only thing saving me from future pain. However, it also self-sabatoges relationships since I tend to overthink, but everytime Ive been right. I feel so lost.
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DTR or give up entirely. I
Relationship Stress / by tinadec
Last post
 March 4th, 2020
...See more Hi there. So Ive been seeing this guy since November. Weve went on trips together, which he initiated, and have hung out at least once a week since meeting on tinder. Whenever we hang out we always have fun and he does little things to show he cares about me like plugging in my phone for a charge and letting me drink from his water bottle and even opening up his car door for me. Weve hung out and talked about our families and friends, but one thing we dont really talk about is our feelings. We have had physical intimacy and know we are attracted to one another. He constantly shows me that he would make a good boyfriend, but Im cautious since Ive been hurt before and its hard for me to communicate my feelings because of past relationships. When he went on a two week trip to another state, we messaged pretty much every day and he sent me photos and videos. When he got back, I missed him so I sent him a message asking to meet up. We were definitely acting like a couple holding hands and even kissed by the pier while watching the birds, and weve held hands and kissed in public before in other dates/hang outs. Also, the next day after sleeping over, we took a shower together, he gave me a pair of his boxer shorts, and I even have a toothbrush at his place. The problem is when I have brought up loyalty and seeing other people he wouldnt really answer me directly (this was over message not face 2 face) even though it seems we are a couple without a label.
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