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toughCake2491
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PathStep 1 Compassion hearts12 Forum posts2 Forum upvotes6 Current upvotes6 Age GroupAdult Last activeJune, 2026 Member sinceMay 26, 2026
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Operating for the world and not myself
General Support / by toughCake2491
Last post
 June 11th
...See more I have a major issue with caring what people think about me too much. I actually sit back and ask myself "why are you posting this" "why did you buy that" "why are you saying that" and it's never because I want to, it's always to look good for strangers and people who I actually do know. This then turns into insecurity but I'm a master at covering it up and hiding it but I can't hide it from myself. Even my girlfriend asks me "why do you care" and I never have an answer. I have a good job, pretty good life and I still care what people think about every little thing. I'm not even sure where this insecurity comes from, I'm sure it's some unresolved trauma from somewhere. Then after every interaction with people I think "maybe I should've said _____” I rarely go to social events because I'II be anxious all night, then I'll take a shot and feel loose but then I'll replay the entire night the next day and give myself a headache trying to mentally "fix" a night that nothing went wrong. I also tell myself I have main character syndrome because clearly people have a lot better things to worry about than if I looked cool or lame. Anyway, any advice would help. I'm ranting
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Caring what people think
Self-Esteem / by toughCake2491
Last post
 June 17th
...See more I have a major issue with caring what people think about me too much. I actually sit back and ask myself “why are you posting this” “why did you buy that” “why are you saying that” and it’s never because I want to, it’s always to look good for strangers and people who I actually do know. This then turns into insecurity but I’m a master at covering it up and hiding it but I can’t hide it from myself. Even my girlfriend asks me “why do you care” and I never have an answer. I have a good job, pretty good life and I still care what people think about every little thing. I’m not even sure where this insecurity comes from, I’m sure it’s some unresolved trauma from somewhere. Then after every interaction with people I think “maybe I should’ve said ______” I rarely go to social events because I’ll be anxious all night, then I’ll take a shot and feel loose but then I’ll replay the entire night the next day and give myself a headache trying to mentally “fix” a night that nothing went wrong. I also tell myself I have main character syndrome because clearly people have a lot better things to worry about than if I looked cool or lame. Anyway, any advice would help. I’m ranting
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