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Why is this situation giving me so much anxiety, and how can I get over it?
Anxiety Support / by tybruh
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 January 15th, 2025
...See more I’ve been dealing with a situation from over a year ago that still gives me a lot of anxiety, and I’m not sure why I can’t get over it. My girlfriend and I were about four months into dating when a friend she had a sexual relationship with (and remained friends with afterward until getting with me) went to the military. She shed a few tears about it, and explained that it wasn’t about him personally but more about the situation and the danger involved. She also mentioned she’s cried about other friends going to the military, not just this guy. I understand logically that her emotions were about the situation, not him, and I trust her. But emotionally, I can’t shake the feeling that something is off or that maybe I’m not enough for her. I can’t stop overthinking the situation, and it still triggers a lot of anxiety in me. Why is this still causing me so much anxiety even though I logically know it isn’t about me or my relationship with her? And what can I do to stop overthinking and move past this?
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Could this situation still be bothering me because of OCD?
OCD & Related Behaviors / by tybruh
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 January 29th, 2025
...See more I’ve been struggling with obsessive thoughts about a situation where my girlfriend cried over a past friend-with-benefits going into the military. Even though she’s reassured me multiple times that it wasn’t about him but about the situation, I can’t shake the feeling that it’s bothering me more than it should. I find myself constantly revisiting it and seeking reassurance, even though I know the answers. I’m starting to wonder if this might be connected to OCD, where I can’t let go of the thoughts and feel compelled to keep asking for reassurance. Has anyone experienced something similar, and do you think this could be related to OCD?
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Does this situation still bother me because of self -esteem issues
Self-Esteem / by tybruh
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 January 12th, 2025
...See more Hi everyone, I’ve been working through some lingering feelings about something that happened in my relationship over a year ago, and I’m trying to understand why it still bothers me. To give some context, my girlfriend cried when someone she used to be friends with benefits with went into a dangerous situation (the military). She explained that it wasn’t about him specifically, but the danger of the situation itself, and she’s reassured me many times that her feelings are for me and not him. She’s consistently chosen me and shown me love and commitment, but for some reason, I still can’t fully shake this. I’ve started to wonder if my struggle is more about my own self-esteem than anything she did. The situation made me feel like I wasn’t enough for her, even though she’s told me repeatedly that I am. I’m trying to figure out if these lingering feelings are tied to my self-worth and if that’s why it’s hard for me to let go. Has anyone else dealt with something like this? If so, how did you work through it? How can I better identify if this is a self-esteem issue and take steps to resolve it? Thanks in advance for your thoughts and advice!
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In need of relationship advice
Relationship Stress / by tybruh
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 January 11th, 2025
...See more I’m here because I’ve been feeling a lot of anxiety and insecurity in my relationship, and I want to figure out how to manage these feelings in a healthy way. I’m 19, and I’ve been dating my girlfriend, who is also 19, for a while now. This specific situation happened when we were 17, but it’s something that’s stuck with me and continues to bother me. Back then, she cut off her ex-FWB to focus on our relationship, which I appreciated. She’s been upfront and open with me about everything, and I’ve never felt like she’s done anything behind my back. The issue started when her ex-FWB left to join the Navy. She cried about it, which made me feel insecure. She explained that she wasn’t crying because of him specifically, but because she feels emotional whenever people she knows go into dangerous situations like the military. She also told me she’s cried about others she’s known who’ve joined the military before. Even though she gave me a clear explanation and her actions show she’s committed to me, I couldn’t help feeling insecure. The memory of that moment still bothers me, and I’ve recently revisited it because I posted about it on Reddit. People there told me things like, ‘She doesn’t respect you,’ or, ‘She’s settling for you and still has feelings for him.’ Reading those comments made my anxiety worse, and now I’m questioning if I can trust her or if I’m not enough for her, even though it’s been years since the situation happened. At the same time, I know these fears might be in my head because her actions have never given me a reason to doubt her. I want to trust her fully and stop overthinking, but I’m struggling. I’d like to understand why this situation still affects me and why I feel so insecure. I want to work on building my confidence and becoming more secure in myself and my relationship. I also want to stop being so influenced by what strangers online say about my relationship. Can you help me figure out what’s at the root of these feelings and give me strategies to move forward?
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