Trust issues and overthinking
I don't know why I'm writing this but I just want to say it ..i lacking trust ..it's been 2 years in a relationship everything was going good one day I checked his phone and found he lied to me he didn't cheat although but he went to his friends bdya party without letting me know he told me he's going to gym ..i forgave him that time another day I found out he was with his cousin and his cousin shared him a link ( adult content) that link asked to sign in for something first before Opening ..or day I was checking his phone and saw hide my email in apple there he signed into *** and bumble using that Apple id when I ask him to tell truth he cried and said yes I watched that porn video sent by his cousin and that video before opening asked to sign in to something I did it not knowing what it was...and when I checked his app store i knew it he didn't download that *** and bumble app he just signed up through that link ..but now I have to fight with myself to trust this story I don't know how ... He cired he was guilty he begged me to stay he loves me as well but my overthinking is just killing me .. please help me to deal with it 😔
@nailah28
I hear you, and I can feel how much this is weighing on you. Trust is one of the hardest things to rebuild once it’s been shaken, and I can see how these moments have made you question everything. You’re not wrong for feeling hurt, confused, or even exhausted from all the overthinking. When someone you love does something that makes you doubt them, even if it’s not full-blown betrayal, it still hurts.
The fact that he cried and begged you to stay shows that he knows he messed up, but I get why that alone doesn’t make the doubts go away. Trust isn’t just about words or apologies it’s about actions, consistency, and time. Right now, your mind is trying to protect you from being hurt again, which is why you’re spiraling with all these thoughts. It doesn’t mean you don’t love him, and it doesn’t mean you’re overreacting. It just means you need reassurance, stability, and honesty from him, not just in words but in how he shows up for you.
It’s okay to take your time processing this. It’s okay to ask for space if you need it. And most importantly, it’s okay to expect your partner to do the work to regain your trust. Love isn’t just about saying the right things it’s about proving them through actions.
Please don’t blame yourself for struggling with this. You’re not “too much” for wanting honesty and security in your relationship. You’re human, and your feelings are completely valid. No matter what happens, you deserve peace, love, and respect. You’re not alone in this.
Yea🥺 thanks for understanding..I'm only confused for one thing that's was he actually ask to sign in to open that link 😔
@nailah28
Well he did it by choice without letting u know don't feel bad about it anymore. When u were around he shouldn't have to watch it 😞
He told me he was not knowing what it was.. his cousin sent him that link when he opened, it asked to sign in he did it using apple id not knowing to which thing he is signing in after that the video opened...when I checked his phone and opened hide my mail section there I saw *** and bumble and when I confronted him the he confessed that he opened that adult content link where he was asked to sign in some kind of page he was not knowing that it was bumble and *** 😞i checked his app store and got to know he really never downloaded that app so maybe he's telling the truth but still I'm not able to believe him completely and this is making me so frustrated
@nailah28
Whenever we sign in on something that website shows its name and ask for permissions to create a account so do you really think that he didn't see anything before signing in ?
He said that when I opened that link it asked me are u 18+ then asked to sign in i did not but was not aware of what it was..the link was basically sent on *** it was a corrupt link..i don't know I don't know anything 😞😞 I've no other option than believing in him but it's really so much exhausting and disturbing for me
What do you expect from him dear ?
