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Let's discuss issues
by pandanfe
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 2 days ago
...See more What are the adult issues that you would like to discuss? 
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20+ Automated Taglist!
by tommy
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 April 20th
...See more Welcome to the 20+ Taglist This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated by forum leaders and can be found below. Having issues? Reply below and someone will help you! Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on sub-community check-ins, discussions or events ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. ------------------------- Current taglist as of 29th July (updated by @tommy) @azuladragon34 @Dawnie0203 @forcefulThinker186 @HarmonyBlossom @Racey08 @Rainer111 @TannDee @tommy
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Optional Check-in thread!
by comfortingmusician08
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 2 days ago
...See more Optional check-in! Feel free to share whatever you're comfortable with: * What's new? (This could be career, job, residence, school, relationship, etc) * What's something that went well recently? (This could be within the last month or so) * What's something you're looking forward to and why? I am looking forward to starting a new job soon (very TBD/TBA ; I've had applications galore and only a handful of interviews) -- this market has been quite rough as I'm sure many folks, regardless of field/specialty can relate. 
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Let's discuss issues
by pandanfe
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 2 days ago
...See more What are the adult issues that you would like to discuss? 
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Heyy
by Psych2002
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 2 days ago
...See more How’s your guys 20s going so far lol
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I feel like a disease
by Flayyy
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 Wednesday
...See more 26 years I’ve been the good son, the good friend, the good partner. Now I barely speak to my parents, I only just rekindled my friendship from childhood, and I’ve cheated on my fiancée. I haven’t felt anything for over a year, any emotion except for fear and discomfort. I was able to think when I stopped talking to my parents but now they think I hate them. I am glad I rekindled my friendship but I’ve lost so much time with him and his family, his daughter doesn’t even remember me. I thought because I was numb and this woman made me feel something for a little that intimacy wasn’t a problem, I can’t even say I wanted to do it. Now I can’t tell my fiancée because I’m the only person who has ever cared she has said. I’m the only one who’s never forced myself on her, I’ve never yelled at her or raised a hand. I’ve done the bare minimum, except I failed simply being a loyal partner. I have a daughter, and I couldn’t imagine what’s I’d do if someone did this to her and I’m not sure what is wrong with me, I’m not sure why I’m like this and I’m growing so very tired of being me. I don’t want to be anymore. I take everything good I have and I just take advantage of it, I’m not sure why but I would like some other answer than I’m just a bad human.
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Rebuilding life after broken engagement?
by wittySpring8115
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 Tuesday
...See more My ex left the engagement without an explaination, over the phone. Two months ago. I kind of was in shock, and am just starting to try to rebuild my life. I have everything I need. Stable job, nice little apartment of my own. I just. Don't know how to find a new direction. I had the rest of my life planned with this man. Has anyone else been here, what do you do? I am a 30 year old woman. 
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Cocaine Addiction ... how to get over it
by raspberryFarm1698
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 Tuesday
...See more Hi, I'm a student from Austria, 27 years old and began using cocaine a few months ago. Now I want to get over it, but I don't really know how. Can someone with experience help me find a way how to handle this? 
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What does "that girl" mean?
by LostNotFound404
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more Hii I had a conversation with a guy a while back where I told him that I can't understand why guys look at me talk to me and just disappear all of a sudden. It's not that I was rude or anything. Guys always describe me as a soft and caring person. I have been told I am an attractive girl and I am an intelligent person who knows what she wants. He told me that guys 'avoid' me, not like in a bad way, because I am "that girl". And needles to say that is where the conversation got cut short and we never spoke of it again. Could a guy or girl or someone please try and clarify this, because I have been starting to feel like a 'one-time' girl. Like only one chat, one date, one night stand, etc. Am I radiating some kind of energy or what? Is it a bad thing to be "that girl"?
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Warm greetings
by ivoryGlobe76
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 Monday
...See more Hello guys.
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Question About Minor Tension
by BusyBird
Last post
 July 4th
...See more Do you guys think it is normal to start shaking the moment there is even the tiniest bit of tension coming from someone? For example, you ask a question and the person you asked replies with obvious irritation. So, you start shaking, even just slightly. This can happen due to online or real life interactions. I do this. I also get this impending doom feeling, like there is no possible way for me in particular to fix the situation, and the potential for the other person to explode at me is imminent.
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feeling disconnected
by imfinethankyouandyou
Last post
 July 3rd
...See more Have you ever felt completely disconnected from everyone and everything?No matter how sincerely I approach them, the people always ruin it. Either they say something disrespectful or they ignore me from the beginning. And I know there are really nice people but why they are always only in internet :// and before you say "stop looking at your phone and look around in real life then you will see them"... i actually try everytime but only thing I get is disappointment. If you were in a similar situation to mine, how did you change it?
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Hate everyone
by exuberantSpruce9055
Last post
 July 3rd
...See more Life is a cruel thief, and my heart has become an expert in longing for what it can never hold.
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Sport as therapy
by bluePenguin1201
Last post
 July 2nd
...See more Is there such a thing as over using sport as therapy. I normally use sport to get away from my stresses as it feels like I’m in my own world when I watch, play or think about sports but I feel like I sometimes do it too much and get out of touch with what’s actually happening around me? Does anyone else have that?

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