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Let's discuss issues
by pandanfe
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 September 24th
...See more What are the adult issues that you would like to discuss? 
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 April 20th
...See more Welcome to the 20+ Taglist This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated by forum leaders and can be found below. Having issues? Reply below and someone will help you! Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on sub-community check-ins, discussions or events ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. ------------------------- Current taglist as of 29th July (updated by @tommy) @azuladragon34 @Dawnie0203 @forcefulThinker186 @HarmonyBlossom @Racey08 @Rainer111 @TannDee @tommy
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COMPLETE THE SENTENCE
by chokshihet
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 3 hours ago
...See more “Today I need __________ “
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What do women usually feel towards men who are virgins at 22-23?
by charmingAcres779
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 4 hours ago
...See more In need of some advice , I'm a 22 years old male who is turning 23 in 2 short months in November I am still a Virgin and don't know if I should even bother entering the dating scene now afraid I have lost my prime time for having normal chances  I live in very rural Pennsylvania (USA so western culture) so Every women I'm around my age are sexually experienced, been in long-term relationships and in fact many have already are having families I know many 22 year old women on the second child, and i feel so fundamentally behind that when most women do find out I'm a virgin at this age they will find it highly unattractive and leave and reject me ? Also I was diagnosed with PDDNOS (now known as part of the autism spectrum which means you have very low traits but don't naturally do well with the social stuff which I have improved as I've aged ), and I also had substance use issues for most of my teens and early 20s so I dedicated a lot of time to that, but I've working through that so I don't have much relationship experience either . now I feel I'm at that age where most women wont understand my situation or want to help me become . So what age do most sexually experienced women generally find it unusual or become wary to the point passing up a virgin man In the US western culture , are my options likely limited now ? 
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Parents
by bestAcres8668
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 4 hours ago
...See more am I the only one who grew up with unaffectionate parents my parents are responsible and not aggressive although my dad beat me when I was young to discipline me I don’t blame him a lot back in the days that’s all they knew and he stopped when I became a teenager But regardless my parents have always been in bad mood I don’t remember them enjoying life ever Our entire life has been just my mom nagging us to do this and don’t do that That stuff continued to this day and iam 26 In my culture we continue to live with parents as we grow cause we don’t like to abandon them as they grow older and need more attention But I feel like everyday I spend here I get angry I’ve been angry because that’s the only emotion that feels familiar at home and sadness but if you act happy or show different opinions than u won’t hear the end of it As I grew I obviously feel their love through their responsible support for me but it doesn’t fix my chronic bad mood there was a time where when I would go out people are happy and iam just stunned when I see families being happy and affectionate But my parents aren’t they even made me hate my cat I’ve wanted one my entire life and got one last two years or so but it’s like I gave them a reason to hate again to put their angry on my cat again they do take care of it bc it lives with us but still they nag a lot especially my mom I don’t know what being happy is
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I don’t know
by cookiessjoo
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 4 hours ago
...See more I feel so overwhelmed I feel like I’m supposed to focus on so many things at once my studies, building my future, making friends, developing skills, and even just being happy and enjoying my life like I’m supposed to do all of that at the same time and now even having fun feels like another thing I’m pressured to do I just wanna sit in my room and do nothing hatta da sa3b ashan hafdal afkar fe kol haga aamltha w mafrod aamelha
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How to stop being scared of my parents
by drzombienoodles
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 4 hours ago
...See more I need to stop being so scared of my mother. I need to stop trying to not *** her off. Despite how much I say I don’t care, I do have this weird gut feeling of not wanting to disappoint my parents in general. I need to get over that. I need to stop trying to impress them because they don’t control my life. It’s weird how I’m trying so hard to not end up like my parents and how I don’t feel any need to be close to them and that I still do whatever I want, yet in a complicated way, I still feel the need to tell them everything going on with me. Or this need to provoke them into an argument that I never actually have the guts to argue back with if that makes sense. I mean I’m so scared of my mother. I am scared of making her mad but also, why? What is she gonna do? She cut me off and stopped taking to me for a month once and what happened? Nothing. The world didn’t end, I still had an income, I still lived alone, I was fine. So why am I still so scared to stand up for myself? Why am I still so scared of her or scared of making her mad? The same goes for my dad. He’s the reason I flinch when anyone yells at me not because he hit me but because when he gets mad, he yells and gets really ***. Both of them are the reason im so scared of pissing people off. I don’t want anyone to be mad at me so I people please my way through life and never stand up for myself. How do I get over this? How do I get over this constant fear of not wanting to *** my parents off? I feel like when I get over that fear of pissing them off and start provoking them or arguing with them back or standing up for myself, then I’ll be better about it in real life. I won’t let boyfriends take advantage of me, I won’t let friends talk down to me because im younger, I will able to take control more of my life yet still be able to make friends. I just need help on how to take the first step of standing up for myself to my parents. Any tips?
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skin breakouts due to stress
by goldenFriend9441
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 5 hours ago
...See more what do u do 
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Khud ki talaash /Finding yourself
by greenGlobe3286
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 5 hours ago
...See more Pata nahi kyo Mujhe ab bhi khud ki talaash hai Is ruki hui zindagi me. Ab bhi jeene ki. Ek chhoti si aash hai Dua hai, Khuda mila de mujhe meri hi rooh se, Jise ab bhi muskurane ki chaah hai Mujhe bhi mil jaye meri manzilo ka shikhar Aisa mere apno ka vishwas hai Ae zindagi sikha de koi aisa hunar Ki tujhse nazre mila saku Aur main beti hoon inki Ye baat poori duniya ko garv se bata saku Is liye shayad. Mujhe ab bhi, Khud me khud ki talaash hai Anjali english translation I don't know why. I'm still looking for myself In this stagnant life. To still live. There is a small hope Comedy, May God reunite me with my own soul, Who still wants to smile May I also find the peak of my destination. That's what my own people believe. A Zindagi Shiksha De Ke Kaya Aisa Listening Can I make eye contact with you? And I am their daughter I can proudly tell this to the whole world. That's why, perhaps. I still have, I am looking for myself in myself. Anjali
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World peace would be nice.
by BusyBird
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more I've been thinking a lot about nationality and racial interactions I have had. I feel like it can be so easy to be sweet to any type of human, but because I am American, I am sometimes met with low-blow jokes. They are usually not even creative, and they do not usually even apply to me as a person, so I find them quite disappointing. So... there is a bitterness growing within me. If they do not insult me and my people, then they express joy in the concept of our downfall. I try not to let it change me, but it is getting difficult to keep my positive view of people who seem to ooze with some weird misplaced superiority over me. I usually find out later that their behavior is an attempt to distract us from their own problems, funnily enough. I do not want them to have problems, but I do not like the superiority complex and the weird petty flexing some people do just because of my nationality or race. And when a real actual tangible problem gets brought up among me and my foreign friends and my elder friends alike, they just tell me to fix it myself. But I cannot, even though I wish I could. I cannot fix the world's problems. Most of them started before I was born anyway. I cannot even fix my own personal problems alone. If I were like them, who enjoyed making fun of or putting down their foreign friends for country-wide or world-wide problems, then I could say such nasty things. But I am not like them. So I won't. That doesn't mean I have endless patience, though. Don't test me, please. I want to remain gentle. I hate when I get mean...
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Flying horse
by optimisticFriend1736
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 1 day ago
...See more "I'm a founder. I'm building Flying Horse, an AI partner that handles your admin, helps you create content, and grows with your business. It's in early access, and the first people in get it first. You can join the list here: https://pegasus-ai-constellation.lovable.app
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I have helped others and now I need help myself
by Topum
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hello everyone, my name is Leonardo. I now live in Indonesia, and I have found myself in a very difficult financial situation. I wanted to help others, but I misjudged what I could afford and spent too long covering other people’s expenses. I understand my responsibility for those decisions. I am now trying to rebuild my income by looking for clients and working on websites and programming projects. But right now, I cannot manage on my own and need help. I am asking for help raising $500: $300 to pay for my accommodation tomorrow and avoid eviction, and $200 for food and basic expenses in the immediate future. Even $10 would help me right now. If you would like to help, my crypto wallet addresses are at the end of this post. Below is my full story for anyone who would like to understand how I ended up in this situation. When I arrived here 7 months ago, I was fine. I had enough to live on, I worked, and I lived well. When I arrived, some acquaintances invited me to live with them, and everything seemed to be fine. Back then, I did not know how it would end. We lived in a large villa, and it seemed that everything was fine. I paid the full amount for my room, but 2 more people lived in it at my expense. I did not object and thought it would be fun. Over time, when we traveled around the islands, I also often had to lend money to other guys who lived with us in the villa. I was happy to help a little at first, in moderation, but over time, it became a constant thing. A month passed, then 2. The guys who lived with me ran out of money, and I wanted to help them until they got more. I did it out of a desire to help, but in the end, my kindness was just taken advantage of, and they spent my money month after month. You may ask, why didn't they work? They worked, and I even started working with them. They said beautiful words and told me that soon there would be a lot of money. We did the work, but there was no money. In the meantime, I had less and less money. Then another person appeared in our company, and there were 4 of us. I supported three people financially while I was fed beautiful words. Also, at this time, I was communicating with a girl on social media whose life was not easy either. She lived in an apartment without her parents during the war. She was the same age as me, and she constantly dropped different hints. Once, I jokingly told her to come to me in Indonesia, and she even agreed. At that time, I really began to think that we might have something more than friendship because I had never had anyone before. As a result, I paid for 3 weeks in a hotel in Europe for her before she flew to me. I also paid for a plane ticket halfway around the world and gave her various gifts. But, as it turned out, she did not like me at all, and this became the fourth burden of responsibility. But I acted like a man. After she had lived with me in the villa for 2 months, I bought her a return ticket and spent another $1,200 on everything. I had paid for everything for her because she did not work and lay around playing games all day. In the end, I was left with no money and without a person who would support me in difficult times. I had so little money that I had to pawn my equipment to help myself and my friends continue living. My friends did not work, and I had to find a way to get money somehow. Once, a friend had an accident, and I also had to borrow money for his treatment. In the end, they all left when I was already without money, and I was left alone with a lot of debt and without my equipment. During this time, I have made a lot of mistakes, but I have remembered them, and this will be a very expensive lesson for me. Now I live alone in an ordinary guesthouse, without equipment. I try to work, create websites, program, create an interesting game, and continue to help people to the best of my ability. But now I have a lot of debt, there are no clients, and tomorrow I have to pay $300 for housing. Otherwise, I will be evicted. If you count my debts, they total somewhere around $10,000. That is a considerable amount for me, especially when I have $0 in my account and cannot even buy food properly. I have to borrow money again for food. Actually, that is why I am here. I realize that I cannot cope alone and that I need your help. I understand that I am unlikely to collect $10,000 here to pay off my debts and start a new life, but I would be very happy with even $10 for food. Sometimes I do not eat for a couple of days, and I try to save as much as I can. I work 20 hours and sleep very little to earn at least something. I am afraid that tomorrow they may evict me, but I will try to come up with something. If any of you want to help me, I will gladly accept your help. You can help me by sending any amount to my crypto wallet. Ethereum — 0xe27d84e1a7dbda5a36b0bd89270316b21f0da0c5 SOL — HBJ2L3hWMVQoJRCnQHZEeN2UNa7cZqB1G491pfJWBHC7
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Hair in the Shower!!!!
by BusyBird
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I need to know if I'm being unfair real quick. So I live with someone. She frequently leaves globs of her hair on the edges of my shower. I've been asking her to stop for years. She refuses. The trash can is right next to the shower. She leaves slimy hair on the bathtub until I throw it away. Is it so wrong of me to want her to throw it away herself? I hate touching slimy hairballs. I throw my own loose hair away before it gets gross. Is it so hard to just do what I do?
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Halloween is almost here!!!
by BusyBird
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I'm in my late 20s so I guess it's normal to think the holidays are less fun and vibrant compared to when I was younger. I do think there is a real decrease in actual Halloween spirit, though. Hardly anybody where I live decorates or dresses for it. I'm going to try. Last few years we only got a handful of trick-or-treaters so most of the candy gets wasted. But yay at least we still kind of have an excuse to look at spooky things! Spooky in a fun and thrilling way. I love the colors. Stuff like this can make you feel more alive, which is a little ironic. What are you guys going to be doing for Halloween?

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