Why are moms obsessed with our rooms being cleaned?
I'm Hina 31, I have AuDHD that comes with severe PDA. Nymom constantly orders me to clean up everything but I cannot get her to understand how PDA works and it always turns into an argument and her constantly getting on my nerves due to her *** poor listening skills.
@GummyPop
Hina, that sounds incredibly frustrating and exhausting. It’s hard enough dealing with the internal battle that comes with PDA, but having someone constantly pushing you without understanding what’s actually happening in your brain? That’s a whole other level of stress.
It’s not just about cleaning it’s about the way your autonomy feels threatened, the way your brain reacts to demands, and the way you’re just trying to exist without feeling constantly overwhelmed. And when someone refuses to listen or even try to understand, it can feel invalidating as ***.
You’re not lazy. You’re not difficult. You’re not wrong for struggling with this. Your needs and boundaries are real, and it’s beyond frustrating when they’re ignored. I don’t know if she’ll ever fully get it, but you deserve to be heard. You deserve to exist in a way that doesn’t constantly push you into burnout.
If you need to vent, strategize ways to navigate this, or just have someone remind you that you’re not broken I’m here. You’re not alone in this.